I have never known a life without my best friend. Since I was one year old, she’s been at my side, growing up together. From trips and holidays to graduations, birthdays, awkward middle school phases, and low and high moments, I’ve been lucky enough to have someone through it all. This is what an almost two-decade-long friendship has taught me.Â
1. The value of female friendships
As women, we all know the significance of strong female friendships. However, it truly cannot be stated enough. They’re the people who show up without being asked, who celebrate our wins louder than anyone else, and who remind us who we are when we forget. Simply put, they make everything more fun, manageable, and a lot less lonely.Â
2. Laughter is the most important thing
My best friend has always brought out my most goofy and fun side. It has taught me that prioritizing fun and laughter is incredibly important. Over the years, I’ve realized that the ability to laugh with someone is a kind of lifeline that reminds you not to take life or yourself too seriously. Whether that means watching a funny movie, dancing like no one’s watching, or singing at the top of your lungs in the car, friendships should make you smile and laugh, leaving stress, and everything else at the door.Â
3. Don’t be afraid to bother them
A best friend wants to hear from you, even when it’s inconvenient or seemingly small. Sharing your thoughts, asking for advice, or just sending a random text is what friendship is for. Don’t worry about being a bother; they’re there to support you through everything. FaceTiming with a face full of tears, or to ask their opinion on what nails to get, is all a part of the deal.
4. Space is okay; you don’t have to be in constant communication
Look, life gets busy. The value of a friendship isn’t based on how often you’re communicating with each other. It’s totally okay to go a couple of weeks without hanging out. It’s natural to have periods of quiet, and those moments don’t make a friendship weaker. The best friendships are able to pick up right where you left off, no matter the time apart or where you’re at in life.
5. Arguing is not the end of the world
My best friend and I argue like sisters all the time. You aren’t always going to see eye to eye, and you will get extremely annoyed with one another, especially after almost 20 years. Through these conflicts, I’ve learned many lessons on how to handle conflict in all areas of life, including relationships, work, and school.
We aren’t afraid to be honest and call each other out when we’re out of line, which can sometimes lead to arguments. However, I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s incredibly valuable to have someone ready to call you out and tell you hard truths. If you put in the effort, you’ll get over it and make up and (maybe) even apologize.Â
Overall, having a best friend is something that should never be taken for granted, and I feel incredibly fortunate to experience that kind of love. Looking back, these almost twenty years have shaped who I am today. Best friends are built in cheerleaders, therapists, and companions all rolled into one. Friendship takes effort, understanding, and a lot of laughter, but the reward is so worth it.