A large part of what it means to live out the typical college experience is to participate in hookup culture. For college women however, there is a stigma that has been associated with sleeping around or hooking up with multiple partners outside of a relationship, which prevents some from fully exploring their sexuality while in college.
Of course, hooking up is not for everyone, many people choose to refrain from participating in the college hook up scene because they don’t like the idea of sharing their bodies with random people and would rather stay in committed relationships. While I applaud these people who have the will power to stay abstinent or have sex with the same person all throughout college, I strongly believe that they are missing out on not only the college experience, but also on the opportunity to fully exploring their sexuality.
Why College?
Think about it, college is the perfect place to hook up with whoever you want. You’re away from your parents, you have your own place, and you’re within a five mile radius from every hot person at Cal Poly. I don’t know about you, but this situation seems pretty ideal.
Now that we have an understanding of why college is the perfect PLACE to hookup, let’s explore why college is also the perfect TIME to hookup:
First of all, if you are like most people who plan on getting married, you are looking to tie the knot around the time you’re 25 to 30 years old, that means you only have about three to eight years after you graduate from college (not taking into account graduate school) to date around until you get tied down for the rest of your life. This means you will most likely be dating around a lot during this post-college era in search of “the one.” Consequently, you will probably want to get more serious when it comes to your relationships during this time, and therefore, hooking up and sleeping around won’t really be on your agenda. Which means, college is one of the last chances to have casual sex before you start planning your wedding and baby showers.
Why Hookup?
Hookups are the perfect time to experiment with your sexuality. Be bold enough to try new things with your partner/partners. Find out who and what turns you on (you’ll never know if you don’t try, right?). Hooking up can be a way for you to figure out what types of things you like and dislike from a partner. From being with different people, you get an idea of the types of people and actions you like and those that you dislike. By comparing one partner to another, you can determine what worked and what didn’t work in the bedroom. By keeping track of your likes and dislikes, you can begin to find a formula for the perfect hookup.
Once you have this formula down and feel comfortable vocalizing your needs to your partner, you will feel in full control of your sexuality. As a woman, feeling in control in the bedroom is important, especially in heterosexual relationships where men tend to be seen as the dominant figure.
Though many people see hooking up as dirty and degrading, I see it as a way for people to take control of their sexual lives. Ladies take control!! Figure out who and what you want and how you want things done. Speak up for yourself!! Experiment!! This is not me suggesting you hook up with a different person every night (though if you’d like, by all means go and do that), but hooking up with a few people so that you have an idea of what you want from sex. That way, when you are ready to settle down you know exactly what you want from your partner and know how to vocalize those needs.