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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Cal Poly chapter.

In the summer of 1998, a new show surfaced about four career-driven, fashion connoisseur, sexy, single women ruling New York City. We quickly fell in love with Sex and the City and all it stood for: empowerment, excitement, and entertainment. As the series continued, we watched Carrie purchase every designer shoe known to man, Samantha seduce any man she passes, Charlotte fantasize about her knight in shining armour, all while Miranda cynically observed her friends and her city. This list outlines a few of the many important lessons this show brought to bright, sexy women like you and

Men may look good, but that doesn’t mean they’re good for you

Charlotte York, the quintessential Upper East Sider thought she found her perfect match. He was tall, handsome, smart, and… impotent. Through Charlotte’s relationship with Trey, we were able to learn that looks are not everything. It was not until Charlotte met pudgy, loveable Harry that she realized there is no such thing as a “type” — what matters is what your heart tells you. Don’t be too quick to take someone out of the equation until you have given them the chance.

If you’ve got it, flaunt it

Our queen, Samantha Jones, is the definition of a bada**. She does whatever she wants, whenever she wants, regardless of others opinions. Her bold energy and unstoppable confidence shows us that the most important relationship to tend to is one with yourself. Take the time to learn what you love, hate, and need. It shouldn’t matter what other people think as long as what you surround yourself with brings you good vibrations.

Let people in

It is easy to put walls up and assume the worst in the people. And, the only thing worse than doing that is making a habit of it. For so long, we watched Miranda Hobbs close herself off to many suitors. She always felt the need to have everything together. Finally, Miranda broke that pattern and met the love of her life – Steve. It feels safe to shut people out and to only think with your head. But, vulnerability shows strength, not weakness. One of the bravest things you can do is open your heart; you never know where it may lead you.


Don’t lie to your friends

If you are hiding something from your friends, odds are that you shouldn’t be doing it in the first place. We watched Carrie Bradshaw cheat on Aidan while keeping it ‘hush-hush.’ First of all, don’t cheat – I think Carrie would be the first to say so. She knew it was wrong, which is why she hid it from her best friends for so long. At the end of that situation, every single person walked away feeling destroyed. Friends may give you a hard time with what you’re hiding, but that is only because they love you. 

It’s okay to be single

All four of these women exude confidence and character while being single and sexy. We watch them go through relationship after relationship, questioning if they would ever meet “the one.” Carrie said it best, “Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.” Be selfish for once; take care of you and don’t go searching for love. Ultimately, when the time is right, love will find you.

A show with a simple title taught us much more complex lessons. We learned about life, men, fashion, and friendship. But most of all, we learned that we have the power to create our own destiny.

Megan O'Grady

Cal Poly '21

Megan O’Grady is a fourth year Child Development major with a Psychology minor. She’s a sucker for astrology, sex + relationships, and deep talks. When Megan is not writing for Her Campus, she’s most likely dancing, watching music videos, or thinking about Harry Styles.