Grudges–a persistent feeling of ill will or resentment resulting from a past insult or injury.
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Making Amends
Ever heard of the saying, “hurt people, hurt people”? As I scrolled down my Instagram timeline a post came up that caught my attention. “If you never heal from what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people that didn’t cut you.”
Crazy right? This past Sunday, my pastor preached about unity. And in the process of unity, it is important to make amends with those that wish against us. Believe it or not, it’s a step in the healing process that provides relief for the forgiver than the one to be forgiven. Her challenge to the congregation was to go out and make amends. Many of us our there have experienced a broken heart in several ways. Ladies, the guy you gave your all to, maybe even created new life (child), stability, or just a fresh start with. He was a friend you thought would be your lifelong partner. Men, the lady you believed was the queen of your dreams has caused you to hurt in those soft spots. She may have either cut you, crossed you, screwed your best man, all of the above more or less. How did you cope? Are you still holding on?
Never wait for an apology. The more Godly aspect to take would be to forgive. Send that text, make that call, write up that email, or better, add them to your prayer list. Tell them it’s okay, find a place in your heart where you can sincerely accept and move on. From a sermon of one of my favorite pastors, Steven Furtick preached about being sincere when we accept apologies or work on forgiveness. You should never say “I’m sorry” or “I forgive you” and bring the situation back up. Your sincerity was nonexistent. In that case, all you did was say it for you to hear but not believe. Don’t let EGO make you believe that holding on will cause you to gain strength, you will always break!
My final challenge to you is to try out your hand in prayer. Give that person to God and let him deal with those that defy against us. Until next time, Keep Living Out Loud