Putting yourself first: some may say it’s synonymous with being selfish. The truth, however, is that it’s oh-so-necessary to your mental health and general well-being to prioritize yourself every now and then. Next time you find yourself at a crossroads with no deciding factors, remind yourself of the following.
– Less stress: Everyone has had times where doing what was expected of them or going along with the actions of their peers wasn’t on par with their own values or goals. Eliminate the stress of wondering “What if another option was better for me?” by alternatively finding an activity or response that satisfies your end game.
– At least you’re happy! As quoted by the great Katharine Hepburn, “If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.” Working to satisfy or impress others when the outcome doesn’t satisfy or impress you is counterproductive in the long run. You could end up resenting yourself or whoever made a decision for you if you end up regretting it later.
– All of your decisions rest on you: That said, the blame game is never healthy. Eliminate the opportunity to put the negative outcomes of bad decisions on others by putting your own weight on your shoulders and going ahead with your own decisions. This way, the consequences (good or bad) are all credited to you!
– Why follow other people, anyway!? Be a trailblazer. College students have never been particularly well-known for making impressive decisions – you never know if their precedent is going to work in your favor or not. Take the risk as a learning experience and make bold decisions that please you.
– Cultivate independence: decisions are a part of daily adult life. Taking time for yourself and making a few personal decisions here and there are actually proven to improve your relationships with friends and loved ones.
So just remember – sometimes, when you really need to, it’s alright to just do you.