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Why are women treated differently for having a sex life?

Why are women treated differently for having a sex life?

I’m sure all girls have experienced this at some point in their lives. In high school, a boy has sex with a girl and he’s perceived as ‘manly’ for doing it. When a girl decides to have sex, she’s seen as ‘slutty’. Why is there a double standard?

This has bothered me for years. It happens with peers, fellow classmates, even with your own parents.

When I was 16 years old, I wanted to get on birth control because I started having relations with my boyfriend at the time. Trust me, when I was 16, I really didn’t want to get pregnant. But why should I feel bad for wanting to have sex? It’s a normal human function.

But when I was 16 years old, I needed my parent's permission to get prescribed birth control from a doctor. I asked for my mom’s permission and she flat out said no because I shouldn’t be having sex anyway.

Why not? What’s wrong with a teenager wanting to have sex? If you’re safe about it, it shouldn’t matter.

And at that moment, I started to feel bad about having sex. I no longer wanted to because I felt like I was a bad person for wanting to do so.

A few years later, I started to realize I shouldn't feel bad about having sex. If guys are encouraged to do it, then shouldn’t women be?

Now I’m not saying that you HAVE to have sex. It’s your body, do what you want. But if you want to have sex, then do it. Don’t be ashamed. Love your body. Make your body feel good.

I’m all for sexual liberation. If it’s consensual and safe, then do what you want with your body, girl.

Sara is an Integrative Public Relations Major at Central Michigan University. She hopes to work in a PR agency one day, managing social media for clients. When she's not reading yet another book from one of her three bookshelves, she can be found cuddling her cats, Luna and Selene. 
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