“I’ll never want kids,” is what I always told my parents. “You’ll change your mind once your older,” my mother would tell me.
When I was a kid, I always knew I wouldn’t want to be a mother. I know many people enjoy the gift of motherhood, but personally, it’s not for me. I have my own reasons.
I’ve never been a baby sitter and I never had any younger siblings, so I’ve never really experienced being around kids. I honestly start to feel uncomfortable or annoyed when I’m around children for too long.
“But you were a kid once!” So? I know I was a kid once. That doesn’t mean I need to like children just because I was one. We all were children, obviously. I still find children extremely rowdy. I’m sorry I put my parents through that when I was young.
“But children bring fulfillment to your life.” Yes, to some people– but not me. Everyone has different goals in life. Some women want to have a family. I don’t. I’m perfectly content focusing on my career and my boyfriend alone. I have enough to worry about already.
“You’ll change your mind once you find the right man.” Finding the ‘perfect’ husband has nothing to do with me wanting to have children. I believe I have already found the right man for me and I still don’t want kids. We’re happy where we are in life right now and we plan to keep it the way it is.
“You won’t find a husband if you don’t want to have kids.” Wrong. There are plenty of men out there who don’t want kids either. My body isn’t only made to please men and pop out their spawn.
“But you’re a woman. You’re supposed to have kids and have a family.” Only say this to me if you want to put me in a horrible mood. Just because I’m a woman doesn’t mean I need to reproduce! It’s not for everyone. If a woman wants to have kids, good for her! Personally, I’d rather be married without kids—and have maybe a few cats instead. Coming home from work and having a nice quiet night alone with my future husband is how I want to spend my adulthood.
I’m not about that mom life– worrying about school supplies, shots, paying for college, lunch money, etc. It’s all just too much for me to worry about. I can barely take care of myself at this point in my life.
Don’t get me wrong, I think women who are mothers are amazing people. It’s a lot of work raising kids. It’s just not the life for me, so don’t try to change my mind. I won’t.