The Girls How-to-Guide: Making a Relationship Work

In college it seems more students struggle with their love lives than with the classes to take next semester, what topic to do on a research paper, and what possible career path to purse after college. All relationships are different, since every girl is different, but when talking to girls on campus they are all asking the same question.

How do you make a relationship work?
It’s hard, no doubt. Take two people who had lived without each other their whole lives and then try to combine feelings, thoughts, and dreams together along with the whole “figuring out my life” college thing. Sounds complicated right? So one late night with my college buddies we hit the drawing board and came up with a simple formula we think can answer your question. 

Submit Yourself (Respect (for him) + Love (for her)) = Making it Work
Before you dismiss it, let me explain. 

First- Submit Yourself: In a relationship, a common issue is an imbalance of effort. Both sides occasionally feel they are putting more effort into the relationship than their partner. There needs to be an EQUAL effort. I am not talking about 50/50. You each need to give 100% of yourself to each other in order for it to work. At this point most people say, “You have to focus on your needs too.” Think of this girls: If you are constantly seeking to support and fulfill his wants, needs, desires and in return he has that same investment: both of you are always being taken care of. This also builds other essential foundations of a healthy relationship like trust and commitment. Your attention to each other will strengthen your love connection and leave both of you feeling like an unstoppable force. 

Second- Respect Him: From experience (meaning me being a guy) anytime a boyfriend is angry, it is when he feels disrespected in the relationship. Guys always have egos, the whole I am always right thing. This is why guys aren’t usually into the whole roses and chocolates gig. More than feeling like their girlfriend loves them, they need to feel like their girlfriend respects them. It’s a status thing for you to respect him, and in return he will be more willing to take care of you.

Now it’s your Turn Ladies! After each of you have submitted yourself to each other and you have respected him, he will be willing to spend nights cuddling up next to you watching chick flicks and giving you a back massage. Because all men know a woman just wants to feel loved. So make sure your boyfriend is giving you just that. 

In conclusion- Woman respects man. Man loves woman. Submit yourself to each other. Everything else will come into play. In all honestly once my girlfriend and I brought this into our relationship we have been happier than ever. Our hearts naturally want to take care of each other because I feel respected and she feels loved. It’s an easy thing since that’s what love should be, selfless.