For many of us, the move to college meant saying goodbye to more than just friends and family. As if relationships weren’t hard enough- add distance to the equation! Here’s some key advice when it comes to dealing with the boyfriend or girlfriend that’s miles away.
1. Take mom’s advice: School first, relationship second!
This isn’t high school anymore, grades really do matter. College is a big adjustment, so it’s a good idea that the two of you mutually agree school comes before the relationship. If you see yourself having a busy day-let your girl or guy know! You’re spending thousands of dollars a year to attend a university- There’s no sense putting aside your work for a relationship. If you find yourself drowning in textbooks and studying-reward yourself with a 45-minute break to catch up with your guy/girl on the phone!
2. Too much texting can be a bad thing
When you’re unable to have face-to-face interactions every day, it’s tempting to text your babe 24/7-don’t! Start the day off by sending a cute and simple “good morning” text to him or her, but avoid any in-depth conversation making. It’s easy to burn through topics over text, so instead find a time when you’re both free at the end of the day to talk on the phone. There will be a lot to talk about and a much more consistent, easy-going conversation!
3. Keep things flirty
Even with the space between you and your boo, there’s always opportunities to keep the fire burning in a relationship. Offer up “skype dates” and chat through the screens of your computers while you both eat dinner or watch a romantic flick. It’s much more intimate than texting, and gives you both a chance to have some face-to-face time. Between classes, send a text that lets your girl or guy know that they’re on your mind. Better yet, get creative and send a fun, flirtatious love letter – Keep up the playful snail mail throughout the semester!
4. Get involved in your school
Missing someone isn’t easy, but it’s important not to let every moment of your free time go to the girl or guy you’re in a relationship with. Colleges offer a variety of clubs and ways to get involved- test out the waters! It can be a great distraction from the stresses of a distance relationship, and better yet, give you a chance to meet some new people who share the same interests!
5. Jealousy: Don’t let the tension build
Trust and communication are key in a relationship, especially with distance. It’s normal to feel some-what uncomfortable when your guy or girl is out every weekend at co-ed parties, but don’t feel inclined to accuse them of any promiscuous behavior! For the sake of respect, make a point of letting the other know when you’ll be drinking, and be sure give yourself a chance to socialize and have fun without harming the relationship.