Growing up I had a lot of insecurities. I grew up as one of the only POC in an all white school. I hated being darker than all my friends, I wished I was blonde with light eyes, and I hated being a little more hairier than the rest of my friends. I felt so trapped in a body I couldn’t change. After getting into college and seeing people who looked like me I suddenly felt more acceptance over myself. I still always compared myself to every girl I saw. I critiqued myself on things that no one would even think about. It was a constant battle of feeling disgusting about myself. After getting out of a toxic relationship I suddenly saw what everyone else saw. A pretty girl. And the realization hit me so quick. I honestly felt so much better about myself because I realized the only person caring about you is you. Thats why I stopped caring about what people thought of me. I didn’t care what I wore in public anymore. I wore what I liked and I felt good.
Girls are always taught to constantly fix themselves when they don’t need to. No celebrity looks like themselves in real life. We focus on little things about ourselves that don’t matter. Because one day you beauty will be gone. Judging ourselves doesn’t do anything for anyone. Even the most beautiful girls feel insecure about themselves. We have to stop being our own enemies. There’s always gonna be people in this world that want to tear you down and you shouldn’t be one of them.
You’ll always feel insecure on some days, but at the end of the day you are you. As long as you know there’s no need to compare ourselves to other people, your life will be much more positive.