Long distance relationships can have their ups and downs, but if you are both willing to put in the effort for one another, it will be worth all of the hard moments. I am obviously no expert and am currently experiencing all of the positives and negatives myself, but I thought I would share some of the things that help to make everything slightly easier.
1. Talk! Talk! Talk!
I think the most important part of doing long distance is communicating and just talking to each other as much as you can, because it is the main connection you have while you’re apart. Whether it’s facetiming, texting, calling, snapchatting, or even dm-ing each other random Instagram posts, try your best to connect throughout the day. A really easy way to do this if you are super busy is just to talk at the end of the day and tell each other how your day was. Another big part of this is reminding each other of how much you care and just letting one another know how you are feeling.
2. Think Positively
Sometimes it can be hard to think about how long it is going to be until you see each other or how long it has been since you were last together, but it is so important to keep your mindset positive. I often find myself looking at pictures and videos and instead of letting myself get sad, I tell myself to be happy and grateful for those memories. Power through all of the hard moments and think positively!
3. Don’t Let it Hold You Back
Sometimes it can get hard when you are balancing both keeping up with/talking to your girlfriend or boyfriend, and living your life somewhere else, but it is so important to be present. Don’t miss out on anything in your life. Don’t live your life just missing the other person and instead, make sure that you are doing everything you want to do, and just have that other person be the only thing that you are missing out on.
4. Be Understanding
Understand that you are both going to have different and busy schedules, so it is important to always keep this in mind. Especially for me, accounting for the time difference was tricky at first, but as you both get more adjusted to your schedules, it becomes easier to handle. Trust plays a huge role in this, and just trusting the other person and always knowing that they have your best interest in mind is extremely important. Also, sometimes you are going to have miscommunications and get frustrated at one another, but understand that you both have to live your lives apart while knowing that you will always have each other as support.
5. Visit Whenever Possible!
Planning a visit or the next time that you are going to see each other is really exciting and gives you both something to look forward to. Depending on how far apart you are, visits might be more spaced out or difficult to coordinate, but whenever you find a time that is convenient for both of you, organize seeing each other! Also, make the absolute most of your time together even if it is short, because it is the time that you are together that makes doing long distance worth it.
I hope that these tips will help you as much as they have helped me in doing long distance so far! Even though they are small things to just keep in mind, they really help in taking pressure off your relationship!
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