This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Broward chapter.
Relationships can be complex, only if you make it that way! Only you can make yourself happy and how your relationship is structured is how you make it out to be! Let’s discuss what to expect from a healthy relationship and unhealthy relationship!
Healthy Love
- Allows for individuality
- Brings out partners’ best qualities
- Accepts endings
- Experiences openness to change
- Invites growth in the partner
- Experiences true intimacy
- Finds pleasure in giving and receiving
- Does not try to change partner
- Does not try to control partner
- Accepts limitations of self and partner
- Does not seek unconditional love
- Has individual high self – esteem
- Trusts the memory of the partner
- Expresses feelings spontaneously
- Welcomes affection and closeness
- Believes in equality
Unhealthy Love
- Feelings consumed in the relationship
- Extremely afraid to let go
- Excessive fear of risk or change
- Little individual growth
- Few truly intimate experiences
- Playing mind games
- Trying to get something by giving
- Trying to change people
- Needing others to feel secure and happy
- Refusing to commit
- Repeatedly experience of negative feelings
- Being afraid of affection and closeness
- Cares with excessive detachment
- Frequent playing of “power games”
- Looking to others for self – worth
Remember this quote….
“Soul – mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but they are always perfect for you.” – Unknown