So it’s officially cuddle season. I hope you got your man that new 2K they always post about every year or might as well go get you a life size teddy bear. If you did get your man 2K, did he deserve it? Let’s talk about it.
Ladies, are you the type to go to war for your man? Are you the type to buy him all the newly released sneakers? New games? Anything he wants, he can get it? Most importantly are you the type to do all these things, get cheated on and still take that man back? Hmm…. Is that man really your man, your man, your man or is he “our” man?
No shade to any woman right? You got into a relationship, fell in love fast, that man was doing everything right to get you; but now that he got you what is he doing to keep you? A lot of men in this generation don’t open doors for you… let me backup, they don’t even ask you to be their girlfriend. You just wake up and you are “bae” or hang out once, and then they start getting handsy.
So is a man that lacks the morals of even asking you to be his girlfriend before expecting you to start fulfilling all these girlfriend responsibilities really a man worthy to be screaming “my man, my man, my man” over? These are things to think about.
Does that man return the same energy you’re giving? What exactly makes that man worthy to be your man? Is he doing everything within his power to maintain your peace and happiness? It is not your partner’s responsibility to make you happy, but it is important that they don’t ruin the happiness you’ve spent years building.
How many days are you smiling in contrast to the nights you cry yourself to sleep while in that relationship. How many times did that man make you stay up late waiting for his phone call because he told you “don’t go to sleep I’ll call you at seven?” How many times did he in fact call you, but he is paying more attention to the “bros” on the game than he is to you? How often does “your” man actually pay attention to you and make you feel loved anywhere else other than the bedroom?
It’s getting a bit deep right? Okay, when was the last time that man even bothered to buy you $10 flowers or even $1 chocolate? He’s the same one buying his bros Azul bottles at the club though.
I find it so funny how men hate for you to be so independent and have your stuff together because that makes them feel powerless, but they will fight you and absolutely refuse to pay for your meal when y’all go out. Mind you it’s the same men that always say “if I eat, then my bro will eat.”
All I’m saying is, stop screaming “my man, my man, my man” to the world, when that man is still telling his bros “y’all are just talking.” Don’t buy that man the new 2K game if that man isn’t getting you the Telfar bag. Stop sweating up in the kitchen cooking for that man, if he still asks the waiter to split the bill for your $20 meal.
One last thing, I am coming to you as a woman, that man is not only “your man, your man, your man,” he is not only “our man, our man, our man,” ladies to be completely honest, that man’s true love is his bros, so he is “his man, his man, his man.”
How can you really live with that?