Valentines Day is indeed around the corner and many people are wondering how to attract someone before the big day. It is possible that some readers might be overly sensitive about the day and feel that it is a waste of time and money. Others, however, might not feel this way at all. Whether you are single or not, many of us imagine how the day might turn out before it actually happens. If you happen to get a little something out of the day – even if it is one of those small cards that we all passed out when we were in elementary school – I know it will result in a smile, even if only for a few seconds. Although Valentine’s Day might remind us to tell the significant people in our lives how much we love them, it is important to remember that we should do this every day, not only on special occasions. Who cares if you aren’t in a relationship or don’t have a secret admirer? Think about what you do have. We often take for granted the people that do care about us and frequently forget that not everyone has the luxury of knowing that someone is there for them. I am not saying that you cannot long for a boyfriend or girlfriend, however, make the most of who you are at this very moment and the people that impact your daily life. Do not let any day -even Valentine’s-be wasted on reflecting what you don’t have. Use Valentine’s Day to make someone feel special, no matter who it might be. Those flowers will wither, but acts and thoughts of kindness will always last.
Below, I responded to an entry that was received for this issue. Hopefully the person who submitted the question, as well as other readers, will find my response to be useful.
Q: How can I tell if the person I like is still interested in me? He’s been giving mixed signals – sometimes he’s flirtatious and other times he acts as if I’m not even there.
I do not know how long you have known this person, but I am going to give you two ways to look at the situation. I believe that it is really important to pay attention to his actions, which you have done so already. When someone starts acting differently and not giving you the “time of day” anymore, it could mean he or she has lost or is losing interest in you. Also, think about when he starts acting this way? Is it only when he is around his friends? Or is it when you two hang out alone, that is to say if you do? Also, where does he flirt with you? Is it just at parties or is it when you are alone together? Well, if this person is wholeheartedly interested in you, it is unlikely they would want to ignore you. They would pursue you. You shouldn’t have to try that hard for someone to pursue you. Usually when you start having to question yourself, it means your conscience is kicking in and you might want to start thinking about ending things. However, there’s another way to look at it. Maybe he is really in to you and you might be the one giving mixed signals. When he flirts with you, think about how you are responding. Sometimes the way we act can throw people off, even when we don’t mean for it to. When someone likes you, nerves do come into play – especially when you think about the fear of rejection. He may not want to put all his feelings out there because he isn’t sure how you feel about him. He may just be playing it cool. So, when he acts as if you are not even there, strike up a conversation to see how he responds. Offer up a compliment. Give him a smile when you two see each other. Then from there, see what happens. And don’t second-guess your intuition. More times than not, that voice that you hear inside of you is trying to help you see something you might not want to acknowledge.
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