We’ve all been there, we’ve all had those friends that aren’t even real friends, but actually just people we hang out with because we know them, and there’s no one who will tolerate our weirdness like they do. However, these people are not always great influences to have in our lives—they don’t actually care about your well-being, the so-called friendship you have, and the choices you as an individual make. Instead, they care more about their nails than they do about you. If you disappeared, they wouldn’t come looking for you; and when you make a bad choice, rather than helping you learn from it, they make you feel stupid and less than them for being dumb enough to make the wrong choice.
As a new year and new semester starts, its time to take these toxic people and remove them from your life because they don’t deserve you. Or perhaps you are this friend, in that case, step it up. You will get what is coming for you if you continue to be such a sh*tty person. Personally, I’ve been both–I was toxic to people, so I removed myself from them and changed to become the person I always wanted to be, rather than someone I (and everyone else) hated. Now that I am a human whom I genuinely enjoy being and people like being around, I have removed the terrible people in my life who I used to call friends.
Being toxic, you only see the negative in everything and are careless to anything that doesn’t involve you. People like this aren’t actually liked because they’re extremely rude and annoying to be around. You’re a bully to your friends and yet they put up with you because they are good people who you don’t deserve. Eventually, you will probably grow apart and they’ll make new friends while you end up alone.
If you are the quality friend dealing with a toxic friend, ask yourself if your friendship is really worth it, which to me means asking myself if I want my future kids to know this person. If the answer is no, then you are going to have to break up with them. You could be blunt and call them out for being a toxic friend you no longer want in your life, you could cut them off cold turkey and just stop talking to them, or if you are truly an amazing person, you can talk it out and try to help them be less horrible so your friendship can flourish. Realistically, the ball is in your court. You are not losing anything that will impact your life negatively. Instead, removing this person will help you see more positively and if you chose to help them then you will grow as a person, with them growing beside you because of you.
Either way, which ever friend you are, make some changes in your life because 2018 is a fresh start. No matter which friend you are, I think you need to hear this vine as a small reminder of what you need to do: