Let’s be real: the same old vanilla sex can get old. Here are some ways to spice it up (especially in time for the holidays!)
1. Restraints
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This is a super easy way to spice up your sex life. Giving complete control to your partner can completely change the vibe. As long as you trust your partner, this is a great way to mix things up in the bedroom. Handcuffs, zip ties, and even scarves can work for this.
2. Blindfolds and/or Headphones
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Similar to restraints, this requires quite a bit of trust. However, your senses are heightened when you can’t see or hear what your partner is doing to you. Some of the best sex I’ve ever had is when I couldn’t see or hear anything that was happening. Trust me, it will change your sex life. This can be extremely exciting and you’ll never want to go back to boring vanilla sex ever again.
3. Have fun in public (within reason)
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Do NOT have sex in public. Teasing a little bit here and there in a public place creates excitement that can carry over later. Brushing up against someone, touching a little bit, and whispering some dirty talk can generate a thrill for later.
4. Sex toys
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Vibrators, beads, plugs, and clamps are all ways to cause more stimulation. It depends on your partner and what they are into, but you can try different toys. Personally, I’ve found that vibrators work best when you’re blindfolded, but experiment with different toys to see what works for you. Exercise caution with some of these if you haven’t used them before.
5. Reclaim your virginity and lose it again!
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This can be a doozy, but it definitely works. When I told my boyfriend I was going to reclaim my virginity, he was confused. However, the next time we had sex and he knew I was going to be losing my reclaimed virginity, he was more attentive to my needs and he was more focused on pleasuring me. This allows your partner to treat the moment like it’s your first time all over again, except this time there’s less pain and they actually know what they’re doing. It’s not for everyone, but it’s worth a shot!
6. For the more adventurous people: Threesomes!
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This is the hottest tamale of them all. Threesomes can be a tricky topic in sexual relationships. It requires the most trust and I highly recommend an open discussion with your partner before doing this to make sure both of you are on the same page about who it is going to be with as well as the other logistics. If it is a spontaneous threesome, more power to you. If it isn’t, make sure all parties are on the same page. Open communication is key. This can be fun and adventurous for everyone involved as long as everyone is comfortable and open to it. So relax, have fun, and enjoy the spice.
P.S. Do not forget to practice safe sex. Use birth control and make sure all parties are consenting to all sexual activity.
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