I think I can speak for most collegiettes when I say that by this point in our lives, we’ve had our hearts broken once or twice. This can qualify as any time a guy has truly let you down. It could have been that time in the fourth grade when he promised he’d play with you at recess but left you at hanging at the monkey bars (pun intended). Maybe it was your first high school boyfriend that walked you to class, met your parents, and then dumped you via text all but two weeks later.
Regardless, the reason we felt so hurt in the first place was because we thought there was a mutual appeal for one another; that he was into you as much as you were into him. It’s time to break the cycle of high hopes and hard let-downs and start evaluating the 5 major signs that he’s just not that into you.
#1. He only texts you on the weekends.
If he ONLY texts you on Friday and Saturday nights, he’s just not that into you. Well, not the way that you want him to be anyways. If he’s not asking about your Monday morning class or shooting that random “Hey, what’s up” text just to check-in on your whereabouts, you’re most likely his last option on the weekends when his plans fall through. After two or three weeks of noticing this pattern, you should stop answering these messages and find someone worth the conversation.
#2. He tells you that “He’s just not ready” for a relationship.
If it’s been more than two months of consistent time spent with him, yet he still tells you that he’s not ready to be in a relationship, he most likely is trying to weasel his way out of any form of commitment. While it may be true that he’s just not “ready” to be tied down to one person, this is a prime “go-to” line for guys. Don’t waste your time trying to convince him that he’s ready, because as wonderful of a person as you are, the thought of you being his girlfriend has barely crossed his mind. Trust me — I’ve been the fool that’s waited it out, and his mind has been set way before you did his load of laundry last weekend.
#3. Consistently casual.
He constantly avoids holding hands. He won’t put his arm around you in front of other people. He’ll only call you things like “babe” or “sweetheart” after hooking up. All are signs that he doesn’t like you as much as you’re trying to convince yourself he does. While PDA isn’t everyone’s thing, being affectionate only when it’s convenient for him is a clear indication that he’s not ready or interested to be committed to you.
#4. He talks about his ex frequently.
There’s a time and place for every conversation, but his ex shouldn’t be coming up in conversation too often, if at all. While we’re all guilty of sharing a thing or two about our past with the new people in our lives, guys rarely hold onto things for more than a day or two. If his old girl is continuing to casually come up in conversation, he still has some unfinished emotional business to take care of. You’re most likely not the girl he thinks of first, and let’s be honest — who really wants to be runner up? Take this harsh dose of reality and put yourself first instead. You’ll thank yourself later.
#5. He avoids you in public.
We’ve all been in a situation where we’re trying desperately to avoid someone that we know or don’t want to talk to. But if that person is the guy that’s supposedly “interested in you,” he’s clearly not ready to be seen with you in public. If he puts his head down in LaCava as he’s walking past the salad line or coincidentally checks his phone as you’re waving to him in Seasons, he’s sending a clear message that he doesn’t want to be seen with you in public. Save yourself the embarrassment and move on to someone that’s willing to stand with you on the omelet line before your morning class.
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