April is incontestably my favorite month of the year. The sun finally comes out of hiding, and everyone on campus is in a significantly better mood. People are smiling and cheerful, and every time you walk to walk to class you see yet another happy couple holding hands. I’m not really sure what it is about the spring that brings this out in people, but it is exciting to see. The only problem is, the school year ends in about three weeks and most couples won’t see each other for months. Then anyone who is thinking of starting a relationship feels discouraged because they won’t even be together.
So how do you know what’s the best decision to make? This will depend on a multitude of factors, such as: how long you have been together, how committed you are to each other, your individual plans for the summer, but most importantly how you feel about each other. It is very common to fall into the trap of feeling pressured to maintain your relationship throughout the summer if you are already in a committed relationship. But those who aren’t quite there yet often face the question: what’s the point? If you’re not together now, how is anything going to change over the summer?
I don’t necessarily agree with this way of thinking. If you’re in a relationship but don’t feel excited about working to stay together, then be honest with yourself and the other person. You’ll both be much happier in the long run. Then for the seemingly unlucky who are still “figuring things out,” it is not an unusual feeling to want to attempt a relationship. If you are getting along incredibly well, it can’t hurt to bring up how you’re feeling to the other person. The worst that can happen is you find out you aren’t on the same page, but at least you’ve talked about it! In my opinion, it is better to know even the bad news then being ignorant. Before you start freaking out over the negative, it is even more likely that you could find yourself in a great relationship that almost passed you by. A long distance relationship is going to be a challenge, but if it’s with the right person than it can be absolutely worth it.
Don’t be afraid of being direct. Once you have figured out exactly what you’re looking for, it is best to be open and honest with the other person. You both deserve to be happy whether it is with each other or not. All of this is so much easier said then done, but use the looming end of the year to push you out of your comfort zone, because it could truly leave you so much happier.
Sources:
http://quotesideas.com/tag/summer-love-quotes/
http://quotesideas.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Love-couple-sun-image-with-quote.jpg
http://www.thefrisky.com/2015-12-22/dater-x-a-new-long-distance-plan/