A girl often grapples at the possibilities of why a boy hasn’t texted her. No matter the context: a random guy who asked for your number, the guy who you’ve been talking to for the past week, the one who took you to a nice dinner last night, or even your boyfriend. Why, oh why, is it that these boys don’t text us? And why do they not realize how crazy they are driving us? The answer is actually rather simple.
Case in point, when Monica* confronted her two-month-long steady hook-up about why he didn’t text her over the weekend, his answer was simple: “I didn’t even think of it!” Clearly, her heart sank a little because he rarely left her thoughts for over two minutes so she went to vent to her friends.
And so the explanations from our girlfriends commence:
- You need to recognize that boys do not just sit around and talk about girls; OK, not about girls they like-like.
- Maybe he’s trying to seem chill.
- This could be a test to see if you text him first… you know, to make sure you’re interested.
- Maybe he thought he was coming on too strong.
- Honestly, it’s not bad for you to text him first. Maybe he wants that!
- Boys are sometimes self-conscious.
- Guys don’t think it’s weird if you text them first. Try it!
- Boys are confusing and stupid.
- (Reads last conversation) That seems like he was going to wait to text you until after __________ (insert event here).
- I mean, he made the initiative to text/hangout with you in the text.
- He’s probably tired.
- …or busy!
- …or both!
- Give him some time.
- He wouldn’t say he’s going to hang out with you if he didn’t mean it.
- I mean he is a(n) freshman/senior/sophomore/junior/athlete/CSOM boy so he’s probably trying to act cool.
- He really seems like a nice guy so I’m sure he just forgot.
- He could be intimidated by you… maybe you should text him!
- Maybe his friends were teasing him for actually liking a girl. Because he obviously likes you.
- Well it’s not like he tweeted/facebooked/instagrammed so maybe he’s away from technology.
- Maybe he/his phone died.
- …or he lost his phone! He’s so irresponsible.
- Just ask him a question and see if he responds. The guy texting first is so old-fashioned anyway.
- If boys want you, they text you; and he wants you. Just wait!
- Do you guys snapchat?
- Like no just wait! It’s only been two/four/six/ten/twenty-four/seventy-two hours.
- He will text you. Trust me!
We girls can’t help but repeat the dreaded beginning scene of He’s Just Not That Into You: when the girls come up with a zillion almost-ridiculous reasons why the boy hasn’t contacted the girl. But the simple explanation is: we don’t know why he didn’t text us. And we can do all the guessing and comforting we like, and maybe even succumb to the peer pressure of texting him first (gasp) but we will never really know why he didn’t text us. Maybe he isn’t into us and we don’t know why…
…Or maybe we do know why: like Monica’s guy said, they didn’t even think of it.
If any of you know another explanation, please enlighten us! Until then, we’ll keep waiting for that text.
*Names have been changed
Photo Sources:
http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationships/stop-waiting-him-ask-you-out
http://www.thecampuscompanion.com/2012/11/05/the-girls-guide-to-texting/