Giving a blowjob can be stressful. Especially with a new partner or when things have slowed down in a relationship. However, don’t give up my wonderful, head-giving friend. Blowjobs are so fun when you have a few tricks in your hand *wink*. Let’s talk about the basics and then some exciting new things you can implement in the bedroom… or the couch… or the shower.
I Know You’re Eager but Start Slow.
It’s a mood killer when you go for the gold in the first few seconds. Guys like foreplay too. If you’re more submissive ask them if you can touch them and suck their penis. If you are more dominant, push them against the wall. Touch their body all the way down and look at them while you pull off their pants. Stroke them slowly at first then speed up according to his moaning.
Kiss Around.
Not everything is about their member. In my experience, men go crazy for licking and sucking on the hip bones and right around the penis while you place your hands gently on their d*ck and rub it. Circle your tongue softly on their skin, even coming back up to their stomach and neck. Make them wait. Make them shake in anticipation. Kiss and lick their shaft softly before sucking.
Eye Contact.
Men love puppy dog eyes with a little sexual deviancy. As you’re licking up and down their penis, tell them to look at you (if they aren’t already) and lock eyes. Smile at them sweetly before enveloping your lips softly around them.
Make Them Do Some Work.
No one knows that penis more than that man. Sit back on your heels and tell them to show you how they stroke themselves. They might be absolutely confused by this demand. If they need guidance, take their hand and wrap it around and repeat, “Show me how you do it.” As they start stroking themselves, spit slowly on their penis and kiss around them. Lick the bottom of the tip and suck on their balls. Make it a team effort.
Don’t Be Afraid to Get SLOPPY.
It hurts a guy when your mouth and hand are dry. Lots of spit is necessary to get the job done. They go crazy for spitting whether it be an aggressive and fast spit or a thick, slow stream. Don’t feel fear in tying your hair up in a messy bun and moaning while you give them that perfect blowjob. Remember that the mouth and hands are like the American bicameral system: they work together. Keep your hand and mouth close together as you give them the BJ so it feels like a fully enriched experience.
Have Fun with Yourself
Touch yourself while you’re going down and make sure they see. You can even ask them if it is okay to touch yourself, so they know you’re doing it. If they are standing up with you on your knees, they can watch you. However, if you are laying down you can rotate yourself where you are at a 90° angle to their body so you can poke your butt out and let them see what you’re working with and even from there they can touch your body.
And if You’re Adventurous…
Tie them up. Of course, with consent and proper knots (there are a litany of Youtube videos on basic knots you can try with your partner). It is exhilarating seeing them struggle to touch you. They will arch and squirm, but you stay strong. Try a chest harness with their hands tied above their head so they can’t reach down for you. Also, blow them in front of a mirror. My guy friend said his girl did it once and it changed his life to see her in her underwear and topless giving him the best head he’s ever had.
Overall, ask for consent and ask if it feels good for him. Knowing if what you’re doing is working is the best indicator of what your partner is comfortable with. From then, you can try other things and know what really gets them going. This is your moment to (spit and) shine.