Courtship in the digital age is honestly a roller coaster. You talk to a guy for weeks and then BAM, you’ve been ghosted. Maybe you find yourself talking to five or six guys on tinder just because you’re lonely with no intention of ever meeting them, or you’re brave enough to try and find actual commitment through swiping left and right. Some days real romance can feel like looking for a needle in a haystack. I’m writing this to 1) let off some steam about boys and 2) hopefully show that you aren’t alone in this crazy dating world. I’ve had some horrible experiences, but yet I still use the app, so I thought I’d at least get some purpose from it and turn it into an entertaining experience for others. A boy from tinder who I am currently talking to, Jacob, let me randomly ask him a bunch of questions for this so I could get a guy’s perspective on the Tinder experience.
Rachel: How long have you been using tinder for?
Jacob: Well I’ve used it on and off for about two years.
R: Have you had any success with it in finding what you’re looking for?
J: No, I have not.
R: You still use Tinder, so does that mean you remain hopeful?
J: Of course, you have to be.
R: In your two years of using tinder, how many actual meet ups have you been on?
J: One.
R: Why so few?
J: She was the only one who wanted to meet me.
R: Have you had any unpleasant experiences using the app?
J: Yea I suppose I have because I feel like I have to change my personality to impress a girl isn’t really what I like to do but I have before.
R: In the times when you decided to stop using it, why did you stop?
J: I was in a real relationship (not formed through tinder).
R: Tinder has a reputation for being used for instant gratification companionship (take that as you will), and I myself have swayed on what I want from it. Have you always been sure of what you were trying to get out of it?
J: Yes I’d say so, I try not to be shallow because honestly, personality is the biggest part of compatibility for me.
At this point, I didn’t know what question to end the interview with so he wanted to ask me some questions just for fun.
J: Do you use tinder to find someone you think could be the one?
R: I try not to think that far ahead because doing that can mean you miss what’s happening in the present, but I definitely don’t dismiss the possibility.
J: Do you find it hard to stay on an app where guys can be demeaning and shallow?
R: Yes, and I’ve deleted the app a few times because of it
After this, we began to deviate from the interview and resumed chit chat as usual. He must not have been that desperate despite having only been on one date, though, because he ghosted me within a few hours after mentioning he was really excited to get pizza together so it’s safe to say this idea went bust. Oh well, RIP to romance I suppose. Just remember, when all seems lost and you’re spending countless hours trying to find the one, know there’s someone out there hoping to find you too, and it isn’t the guy ghosting you from Tinder. Adios Jacob.