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Niamey Asks it, You Share It: The Girl Code

There’s this code that us girls have. You don’t date a friends ex, you don’t sleep with someone your friend already slept with, and you don’t flirt with someone that your friend is currently pursuing. This code that any good friend would follow is called the Girl Code. But, if you really think about it, there is no such thing as a girl code. So why do we spend so much time following these rules? These rules are made by some girl who broke up with a guy and got upset when her best friend went after her “EX MAN.” I personally would never go after a friend’s man because that’s weird to me. I would just keep questioning whether I wanted them when they were together and that is being a bad friend in my eyes.

I posted the question online: What are your thoughts about the girl code? Is it okay for a friend to date a friends ex?” And these are the responses I got on the Girl Code:

Girl 1: “You can date whoever you like. There is no such thing as ‘girl code.’ In my humble opinion, an ex can be like that leftover prime rib or T-Bone that still tastes good the next day, sometimes better. Oops! ! Did I say that…?”

Girl 2: “I think that’s just really awkward. I think if someone is okay with it, then they really didn’t care about their ex much. And that’s just weird for a ‘friend’ to do that lol. Just awkward.”

Girl 3: “If you are still friends, then it’s not okay to date their ex. There’s too many emotions involved and sharing a penis with your friend is nasty. If you aren’t friends anymore then you don’t owe her that girl code. He’s free game and you should do what you want.”


I even got a few men’s point of view on the subject:

Man 1: “People say that when you’re sleeping with one person, you sleep with all the people they’ve slept with. So you’ve basically slept with their friend.”

Man 2: “Got to be careful with friends exes, they can be thirsty hahaha.”

Man 3: “Guy code says no, I don’t know anything about a girl code.”

So now that you have heard my opinion and a few other ones, what are your thoughts? Do you believe in the girl code? And most importantly, do you follow the girl code? I would love to know! Comment below!

Hey all! My name is Niamey Thomas I am A junior at ASU studying Communication, dance, and Brazilian studies! I love blogging and sharing ideas, I would like to become a Motivational speaker and own a Arts studio. I have my own company LifeOfAYoungRealistic http://niameythomas.wix.com/youngrealistic Feel free to follow me on twitter https://twitter.com/NNIIAMEY pintrest http://pinterest.com/nniiamey/ tumblr http://nniamey.tumblr.com/
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