Love is one of the most powerful emotions a person can experience. It is mixed with passion, desire, attraction, compassion and kindness. When dating, we look for that person that we just click with and have a natural connection to. It’s part of being human and finding that person who will be on the journey of life with you. Sure, you will have a few people along the way that you don’t connect with or that turn out to be creeps, but when you meet the person that you have a genuine, deep connection with, it makes all of the bad relationships drift into the abyss.
After being in several toxic relationships, even a narcissist along the way, finding a healthy relationship feels refreshing but also terrifying at the same time. Being with a few bad apples is one thing, but falling into the trap of a narcissist is a life lesson one doesn’t just move on from. Sometimes, those who have been through a terrible break up or a relationship that was emotionally damaging, having someone who is nice and reciprocates emotions and gives a damn about you can seem almost too good to be true. But this person actually genuinely cares for you and loves you, and that is one of the best feelings in the world.
Another aspect of a healthy relationship is finding that deeper connection with someone. Breaking through what is just on the surface and getting past those insecurities. Growing comfortable with someone and getting to know them can be unsettling at times, but it is worth it in the end. Finding someone that is compatible with you emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, mentally, physically and sexually is like finding your “one in a million.” Realistically, you will most likely not find that person again. I would recommend if you do find your person that checks all of those boxes, to not let them go because looks and beauty fade over time, but that connection will be forever.
As someone who has been hurt and seen people get hurt by people who say they love them, I could see how trusting someone who is genuine could be difficult. There are always questions in your head like, “How long is this going to last?” or “When is this going to stop and the other shoe is going to drop?” Those are questions of insecurity for those who have been in emotionally damaging relationships in the past. In a healthy relationship, your person would break through those insecurities and win your heart proving they’re by your side, through thick and thin.
One of the biggest aspects of being in a healthy relationship is someone accepting you for who you are while encouraging you to evolve and grow as a human being. Sure, we all come with flaws and imperfections, but no one is perfect. It takes a person to see those as a part of who you are and not something that needs to change for their benefit to feel truly accepted. This doesn’t mean they will put up with your bull, but it means they accept where you are in your life and will support you on your journey toward personal growth and maturity. A relationship where you grow with your partner and see building a life together as possible, is a liberating feeling. Coming home and having dinner with them and talking about your day is a simple joy in life. Being around that person brings you comfort, safety and happiness. And most of all, this person makes you feel alive . That is what it is like to be in a healthy relationship. If you find this person, you might want to consider locking them down because they are one of a kind.