All new things eventually lose their flair. This includes relationships. There is nothing more exciting then the “honeymoon” phase of a relationship. Fighting is minimal. There is lots of romping. The need to impress one another is still a must. But as the cycle progresses those tight dresses become sweat pants and those hot date nights turn into re-runs on the couch every night. So how do you bring back the sparkle? How do you turn up the volume in your dulled commitment? First step is not to wander. Cheating is never an acceptable way to escape your boring duo. It will not fix the situation. So if you are truly looking to spice up the relationship with the man you love this article is for you. You have to be able to look honestly at your situation and recognize there is a drought somewhere. As women we instinctively like to fix problems, especially if they deal with emotions. So bite the bullet and admit that your relationship needs pizzazz.
Anything we are involved in long-term can cause stubbornness. When we hold a job for a long period of time we think we are experts. We become defensive when we are all of a sudden corrected or are asked to alter what we already know. We have done things our way for so long that our willingness to change can be limited. Remember in the beginning of time when you used to do what he wanted and vice versa? For some reason the dynamic changes and that two- way street becomes one. Alternating what you want with what he wants brings balance and harmony, plus it is only fair. “We have been going on a lot of trips together for something new,” said Natalie Loomis, psychology junior. “If you both want something different, then going to a completely new town or state is never bad.”
Lets face it, to be committed to one person for a long time can become a job in itself. We look at it through the routine lens. If you are seeing the same conflicts, same habits, and same sex positions, it is time to get a new pair of glasses. Chances are if you feel this way, so does your man. The best thing to do is blow his mind with something completely unexpected. “Its usually the simple things that make us the happiest,” said Kelsey Rauch, a retail sophomore. “When I wake up first, I’ll sneak in the kitchen and have an amazing brunch for him to wake up to.” Whether it’s simple or complex the effort will always matter. If it is an all day sex-athon, or you picking up the bill for once, he will notice and want to step up his game too! Another option is to be diversified in what you do. “My advice for couples would be to have more adventure when you’re in a relationship– instead of going to a movie, go to the zoo or go on a hike,” said Megan Supple, a pre-med junior.
Relationships are not always paradise but they are an integral part of who we are as intimate human beings. We love to love others. We love to be loved. Love is powerful. Love is happiness when we actively continue to keep its flame a glow. We also love to wake up our excitement. So when your man walks in tonight throw him against the wall and tell him how great he is and what a mess you would be without him. Never stop stroking his ego. Seal the deal with a steamy kiss.
Like Train says, shake up the happiness.
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Arizona chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.