The overlooked second date

For decades books like Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider’s All the Rules and He is just not that into you by Liz Tuccillo have been prime examples of dating etiquette. While most of us turn to mom or our girlfriends for advice little is truly ever discussed about what to do after that anxious first date. The second date may have relieved some jitters from the first but it does not justify pouring your feelings out to him or unloading all your stress while downing two glasses of free wine.  And that’s not all college girls are unintentionally doing.  “I don’t think girls should talk about their past relationships on a second date,” said Megan Gross,  a nursing junior.
“By talking bad about her ex, it makes her date think that if they would have a future, she would judge him or say mean things about him if they were to break up.”
 Even more importantly, if following the traditional style of dating, you do not sleep with him! It gives a wrong signal. Just ask the nearest guy next to you and they will inform you. The girls giving it up so quickly are not the kinds of girls that get long-term commitment. Dating like dieting takes discipline and time. If there is a special mutual connection felt between you and a guy, no need to rush it. These types of things have to slowly form and develop on their own. Therefore the second date should be almost the same pace as the first. Be engaged and pay attention. So what if you really don’t care about him having tickets to the Superbowl, be polite and let him know that no matter what is coming out of those kissable lips you are curious about it!
Recent graduate,Kathryn Reynolds said, “Avoid talking about yourself the whole time.  Ask him questions and make him feel like you want to get to know him. You can always have a girlfriend ready to call with an “emergency” if it turns out to be a disaster!”
 It’s seen all the time, girls going out of their element and into ‘lie territory’ to impress the guy on a second date. Everyone’s life is unique in its own way. If he doesn’t think the person you really are is good enough, and makes that known to you in some manner, excuse yourself from the table, begin walking and call the besty to pick you up immediately! Find someone that thinks even the dirt you walk on is amusing.
As cliché as it has always been it stands true to always be yourself. This is not to get confused with show him all of yourself. Present him with different aspects of who you are as the connection grows. And remember slight cleavage is enough for a tease; leave some mystery and class to your name—always!
We are all guilty of saying something stupid or inaccurate about ourselves to someone we were interested in. Whether it is just plain nerves or those incessant butterflies that fly around every time you see him, its okay if that second encounter doesn’t go according to plan.  Unless you ripped one at the dinner table, chances are he will want a third date. Be cautious of your actions leading up to the second date and beyond. You might break it before you have a chance to make it.
Melanie Russell, physiology junior shared an instance when she was hooking up with  a guy last year. She said they were texting but simultaneously she was talking to her girlfriend and ended a text to her saying, she loved her. She accidentally sent the text to the guy. Things pretty much ended between them after that minor mistake, she said.  To most ladies none of this may strike us as new, but it is a friendly reminder to treat those early potential moments with care so that they may flourish. Always keep in mind no matter how perfect we think our makeup is, or how long it took us to do our fabulous hairstyle, we will never be perfect nor are any of the guys we say yes to for that second date!