Sex. Something that many of us think about and something that many of us worry about. What if I’m a virgin and I’m self-conscious because I’ve never had sex? What if I’ve had sex with too many people? Let’s discuss why sex is not as important as it may seem.
When I first got to college, all I thought about – outside of education of course – was getting a girlfriend. Every couple I saw looked like they were in some sort of utopia. Smiling, holding hands, kissing, it seemed like they were truly happy. From there, I then began to think about sex. As I progressed through college, almost everyone around me kept talking about how good sex felt and how it made them so happy, almost happier than anything else. This is when I changed my opinion on the importance of sex.
When you stop thinking sex is so important, you allow yourself to think about other things that may actually mean more to you.
The point that I’m trying to make is that while sex does feel good in a lot of cases, it shouldn’t be idolized or romanticized. It should be a necessary part of consensual relationships, just like love or emotional attraction. Don’t be afraid to not have sex and don’t be afraid to have sex. Just know that there is so much more to what makes you and whoever you’re after the amazing people that you are. Go to the Parkway and just talk. Go to a nice restaurant and just feel the vibe. When you stop thinking sex is so important, you allow yourself to think about other things that you may find out actually mean more to you.
In reality, sex is nice, but not as important as many people make it out to be. It’s a normal part of many relationships but as mentioned above, shouldn’t be put on a pedestal. Do what you feel is right, let everything fall into place, and most importantly, be as happy as you can be!
Be great, smell great!