Everyone loves sex. Sex is great! But is it always great? I mean, usually for the guy. The guy always finishes, whether you do or not. And you might think you’re having good sex, but you’re actually just settling for mediocre sex that is really just all about him. No girl should ever have to settle for that, but you may not know that’s what you’re doing. Especially if you’re in a relationship.
When you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s easy to get stuck in the same sex routine. You use the same positions every time and you know when it’s about end. And, most of the time, women are okay with this. We let the men get all the pleasure and ignore our own sexual desires. This is not okay, ladies!
Most of the time, we don’t even realize it. Bad sex is easy to see, but mediocre sex is often elusive. We still enjoy it, but we do not reach our peak. That’s not something to settle with. Here are some tips to making your sex great with your partner rather than simply mediocre.
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Try a new position.
The same position gets old after a while. Sure, you might think you know which one you like best, but if you use the same position every time, nothing’s going to change. Your partner can’t explore other parts of your body that may heighten your pleasure. In order to know what you like best, you have to try it all. Trying a new position will allow you to spice things up a bit. It will make you and your partner more familiar with each other’s bodies and you might find a position you never would have thought to try. Plus, new positions are exciting! Step outside of your comfort zone and you might just have an amazing orgasm you weren’t expecting.
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Change the location.
Don’t just have sex in the bedroom. That’s boring! Try somewhere new. Maybe not your car, but explore other locations to have sex in. Try doing it in public, outside, or another area in your house. It will boost your sex drive because you’re in a place you aren’t used to. It will also force you to use different positions based on the amount of room you have, the things around you, etc. There are a million different places to have sex- don’t stick to the boring ole bedroom.
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Use sex toys.
Sex toys aren’t for everyone, but a sex toy can really change the sexual vibe in a room. They can make you go from “Yeah, sure, I guess we’ll have sex,” to “H*ell yes, right now!” Try handcuffs, anal beads, even give a vibrator a shot during sex! (Yes, ladies, this helps you a lot!) Using a sex toy will kick up the heat. And typically, you will peak before he does because most sex toys satisfy women more than men. But no doubt, he’ll like it.
Talk dirty.
When you’re having sex are you thinking about what food you’re going to make for dinner or what chores you have to do? When you talk to your partner during sex do you find yourself saying, “hey hey hey, slow down” or “you wanna switch?” That is NOT good sex talk. Now, I’m not saying you should scream your partner’s name every five minutes, but try talking a little dirty. When you hear someone talking about sex you usually get turned on, don’t you? So try talking while you’re having sex. Spoken words evoke emotions and sensations that can send more blood flow to various regions. Tell your man how good he feels inside of you, what you want him to do next, and don’t be afraid to make some noise.
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Play games and dress up.
Typically, sex is just sex. Add a new type of sex to your life–one that consists of fun games and stepping outside your typical role of just being the “girl partner.” Try things like strip poker. It allows you and your partner to get undressed slowly, building up sexual energy for when you actually have sex. A fun way to play strip poker is to have the winner choose what position to try. You can include time limits on the said action or you can just go for it and it could evolve into something else. Also, try dressing up. A man loves seeing a woman in a sexy outfit. Even if it’s just new lingerie. But try stepping out of the role of being “yourself.” Playing a different person during sexual play gives your partner a new experience. He won’t feel like he’s just having sex with his girlfriend or hookup buddy, he will feel like he’s having sex with a lady cop, Wonderwoman or Princess Leia. Choose an outfit that you know will please your partner. For example, if he wants to go to med school, dress up like a sexy nurse.
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So, here you have it. There are far too many mediocre things in life, and sex should not be one of them. Make your sex great! Add a new mix to your boring sex life. You’ll have the best orgasms you’ve ever had and your partner will too!