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How To Survive Your First Real Relationship After Getting Out Of A Long-Term One

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at App State chapter.

We all know the one. The one who swept us off our feet and made us feel as if we were the luckiest girl in the world. But we all also know that the one, sometimes really isn’t the one. We end up getting our hearts broken, and watching endless romantic comedies, throwing junk food at the tv wondering why those happy couples couldn’t be us.

But then something magical happens. Time passes, we pick ourselves up, and we realize that we could do so much better. 

So what should we keep in mind when we get into a new relationship after exiting a long term relationship? You’re new boyfriend is not your ex. Many times in any type of relationship we tend to bring things from one to the other. Just because you ex hurt you does not mean that your new boyfriend will. Trust him unless he gives you a reason to other wise.

And realize that things will be different and that’s okay. Just because you didn’t do things, or do things a certain way in your old relationships doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try those things or do those certain ways in this new relationship. Your old relationship ended for a reason.

And finally one thing to always remember is to be hopeful. You never know what can happen, and just because your last relationship ended doesn’t mean that this one has to end too.

Currently a Junior at Appalachian State University. I am a double major in Public Relation and Journalism with a minor in psychology. My dream job would be to work for the FBI. I am also part of the Pi Kappa Chapter of Chi Omega, and I love to smile and make a difference in people's lives.