College falls at a time in our lives where we are figuring out what we want out of life – our major, our friends, what we want to do after we graduate and one of the most frightening: relationships. Relationships in college range from the casual “hang out” to full-on “WE-ARE-GETTING-ENGAGED” attitude. As young and free as we are, this is the perfect time to figure out what we want out of a relationship without being tied down. The key to finding out your “type” falls to the ever-so-scary first date.
First dates do not have to lead to a relationship; sometimes they can be more of a learning experience. They can be a good way to meet new people, eat some good food and maybe decide what you like or dislike in a partner. The best way to have a successful first date lies in the way you approach it and the attitude you have.
First of all, it is natural to be nervous; however, it is important to not over-analyze. Don’t over-analyze your makeup, your outfit, conversation topics – it never helps, this will just lead to more nerves and could make you act unnatural. Keep it simple. Wear an outfit that you would normally wear, don’t overdo it on the makeup and most importantly, you can never plan out how a conversation will go, so never stress about what you will talk about. If the date is going well, the conversation will create itself.
The most important thing you can bring with you on a first date is an open mind and a good attitude. This guy may not be the Ken to your Barbie, but the least you can do after someone has built up the courage to ask you out is to give him the time of day. Pay attention to the conversation and get to know the person sitting across from you because you never know someone until you try. There may be some disagreements and issues that you two do not see eye-to-eye on and if that is the case, take this opportunity as a learning experience for attributes you wish to have in a future relationship.
Lastly, have fun with it! A first date doesn’t need to be serious. Be yourself, crack a few jokes and take it all in. Going on dates that don’t work can be great practice for going on dates that DO work. Learning about the things you are attracted to and the things you aren’t attracted to can only help you in the future with relationships.
Relax, take it all in and don’t rush it! Being single in college is fun and exciting, so don’t put pressure on a dating situation, instead take advantage of the opportunities you do have to get to know people. You never know what it could bring!