Dear Her:
Basically, I went out [with] this guy, who goes to school in Georgia but lives here twice in a span of four days. The dates were SO good, we automatically clicked. It was VERY obvious that he fell for me, he really wanted to see me the second time despite not living here. When he went back to Georgia we started Facetiming and texting a lot more. This was a few weeks ago. We have not Facetimed in a while and he did Facetime me randomly at 2 am on a Thursday night recently, but I was asleep.
I know he has not met anyone else that is serious, because we talked about it and we said we could see each other when he gets back soon. But I guess I am just nervous since we haven’t talked as much recently, which makes sense because he lives far away but I just wish I knew what he was thinking and how he felt. Oh, and Taylors version of RED is NOT helping me. I just don’t know where to go from here.
Sincerely,
Sad Girl Fall
Dear Sad Girl Fall,
Long distance relationships can definitely be scary and full of lots of unknowns! It sounds like you really like this guy you met and care a lot about him even though you have only known each other for a short amount of time. I am hearing that the distance between you two has not been easy, but you do have plans to meet up when he is in town again! It is up to you if you want to pursue a long distance relationship right now. They can be hard but they can also be one of the best decisions of your life.
It is okay to take things slow right now, you don’t have to rush right in. Facetime and texting at all hours of the day is not essential to having a healthy relationship. It is also important to be open about your feelings. It may be a good idea to talk to this guy and let him know how you are feeling. After all, healthy communication is one of the core pillars for a successful relationship. You know what is best for you right now and it is important to be sure that this relationship is not causing a drain on your mental or emotional health. Whatever you decide to do moving forward with this relationship, know that you made the best decision for you right now.
Sincerely,
Her
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