Gender Equality in a Relationship

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             [1]In the gender literature, we often come across two concepts: ‘gender equality' and ‘gender equity'. They are sometimes used interchangeably, but they do not quite refer to the same thing. Gender equality requires equal enjoyment by women and men of socially valued goods, opportunities, resources and rewards. And gender equity is the process of being fair to women and men. Women and men are an equal being in a relationship. It’s important to communicate regularly about the balance in the relationship, especially if one of you is unhappy or uncomfortable. Women are not house pets, and society has the wrong idea of qualities of genres. There are women that are more stronger, rational, and are more protectors than some men.

            Equality can mean different things to different partners. What matters is how you and your partner define it for your relationship. It’s important to communicate regularly about the balance in your relationship, especially if one of you is unhappy or uncomfortable. In a relationship, communication is very important. It doesn’t matter the situations, communications are primal. [2]Why does equality even matter, you might ask? Well, we know that in an abusive relationship, one partner maintains power and control over the other. This type of relationship is extremely unbalanced and unequal. By learning more about how to create equality in a relationship, we can end abuse and build healthier relationships.

           In the eyes of society,[3] “Men are Bigger, Stronger, Aggressive, Protectors, Fathers (cannot bear children), Rational, Hunters, Want sex, and want freedom. And Women are Smaller, Weaker, Defensive, Protected, Mothers, Emotional, Gatherers, Want security, and want a relationship.” Society has the wrong idea of qualities of genres. There are women that are more stronger, rational, and are more protectors than some men. And some men are weaker, emotional, and more defensive.

          In a marriage, the man needs to take care of the children too. Women are not house pets! Women have the right to have a social life. It's unhealthy being inside of a house 24/7. If she is unhappy that you are going out with your friends, or she’s upset about her day at work, or she is only responding to you with a brief sentence, then the cause is most likely that she’s not feeling loved enough. [4]“Women needs a partner that cares, she doesn’t necessarily want someone who has every step of his life preplanned, but she wants someone with drive and with goals. She doesn’t necessarily want someone to cry every day too, but she does want someone who has the courage to cry in front of her when he needs to.”

         Communication in a relationship is essential. Men and women need to communicate on the relationship. It will make it healthier and stronger, and it will last. Gender differences don’t have to mean gender inequality. As long as we remain aware and own our part in the equation our differences can create greater depth, diversity, and opportunities for spiritual growth. Communication is necessary!

 

[1] (SOCI 1101 Understanding Society, 2016)

[2] (loveisrespect.org, 2015)

[3] (The Relationship Saver Blog, 2016)

[4] According to Gray, J., 2013)

 

Reference

SOCI 1101 Understanding Society. (2016).. Unit 4, 4.3.2 “Difference between Gender Equality and Gender Equity” Vcampus.uom.ac.mu. from http://vcampus.uom.ac.mu/soci1101/432_difference_between_gender_equality_and_gender_equity.html

The Relationship Saver Blog, (2016).  “Gender Equality in A Relationship”, Help-my-relationship.com.s31408.gridserver.com. Retrieved 4 October 2016, from http://help-my-relationship.com.s31408.gridserver.com/saving-marriages/gender-equality-in-a-relationship/

loveisrespect.org. (2015). “Equality in Relationships”. Retrieved 4 October 2016, from http://www.loveisrespect.org/content/equality-in-relationships/

Gray, J. (2013). “7 Things All Women Need In A Relationship”. Jordan Gray Consulting. Retrieved 4 October 2016, from https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/2013/12/7-things-women-need-in-a-relationship/