Let’s face it. Being ghosted is a part of life. As much as we wish that rejection would happen in a clear and respectful way, often that won’t be the case. I’ll be honest, I’ve even been guilty of ghosting in the past. I’m not proud of it, but as a people pleaser, I tend to run as far away from confrontation as much as possible. The point is, it’s unrealistic to expect people not to ghost you, but it’s vital that you don’t let it define your self-worth and ruin your confidence. Allow yourself to be sad for a bit, but also value yourself enough to pick yourself up and move forward. While I can’t sit here and offer life-changing, therapist-approved advice, here is a list of what I like to do after getting ghosted.
- Listen to reputation by Taylor Swift
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Don’t ask questions, just listen to it. Yes, all of it.
- Distract yourself with the people you love
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The best way to remember how valued and loved you are is to spend time with friends, family, or even your pets. It’s a great distraction from the situation as well as a reminder of what actually matters in the grand scheme of things.
- Take yourself out on a date
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Go to your favorite restaurant, order your favorite food, and just enjoy your own company. After all, if you can’t love and respect yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?
- Never contact them again
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I know it’s hard to never get any closure, but letting yourself dwell on the situation only holds you back more. If you’re tempted to reach back out to them after a while, remind yourself that they let go of you and you owe it to yourself to do the same.
At the end of the day, the only way out is through. The more times you get rejected in life, the better you become at dealing with it. Next time you find yourself in a spooky situation like this, remember that being ghosted is a great opportunity for personal growth. It may be rough at first, but often when you look back you realize you actually dodged a bullet.