You Owe Him Nothing

Ladies, contrary to what some of you might feel or believe, you don’t owe a man credit for your success.

You’re probably sitting there thinking, “Yeah Morgan, I know. Thank you, next.” Let me explain where I’m coming from. Throughout my entire life I have had to get used to people taking credit for my success. Literally anybody and everybody, and I’m not even exaggerating. People constantly wanted to put me down and make me feel like I had to fit into a certain category or go to school and earn a certain degree. I was so unhappy, and I didn’t know how I let myself get to that point. But, when the moment arrived when I finally decided enough was enough it was like a whole new world opened up in front of me. I suddenly had all of these opportunities that I never thought were possible. I just went for every opportunity that presented itself. I was, in my opinion at the time, living my best life. I had positions in almost every club I was apart of and on top of them all. The one thing that I was still a chicken for was going after a job at one of my dream companies.

For those of you that know me, I LOVE my Cleveland sports teams. For as long as I can remember, sports have always been a major part of my life. I was either playing them or they were on a TV in my house. In order to survive in my house you have to be a Cleveland sports fan, and I’m not exaggerating. I think I always knew deep down that I wanted to work in sports but, I also knew that I would chicken out and would probably never go for it. It wasn’t until I met this guy and he was the first one to ever actually make me admit outloud and to myself what my dream job was. What’s the worst that could happen? I don’t get the job and I try again down the road.

Now, I already told you I was used to people taking credit for getting where I am in life. So when I realized that I had the opportunity of a lifetime, I instantly thought that it was all because of this random guy. Oh man, could that not be farther from the truth.

Ladies, everything you have accomplished or have in life is because YOU’VE earned it. Yes you. All by yourself. Not some random guy that you’ve met or in a relationship along the way. Sure they might have supported you but the truth is, you’re the one who had to fight and put in the effort to accomplish everything. People come and go from our lives all the time, but please don’t fall into a trap of being blinded by others and forget the one constant in your life. That one constant is you.

Yes sometimes we all need someone to light a fire under our ass to get us up and going and stop sitting on the sidelines of our lives. But don’t mistake their support for your success. Heck, I can name all the people who have been there in my corner with pure intentions on one hand. A guy that might be in your life might have been the person to light a fire under your ass like that guy was for me. But by no means does my success go to him or anything that happens after that. The only person that I owe that to is myself and the same should go for you.

Nobody made you put in all the blood, sweat, or tears to get to where you are today. You’ve always had that power inside of you. Nobody but you put in all the hours of studying to get the grades you have. Nobody but you made you step outside of your comfort zone to gain more experience. Nobody but you made yourself apply for positions within an organization or a job you probably thought was outside of your reach. YOU did all of that. Not some guy that you met through other people or bumped into at a coffee shop or met in one of your classes.

The one thing I learned over the hot mess of last year was that once I hear myself say something out loud, I can’t stop thinking about it. I couldn’t stop obsessing over the idea that I had actually admitted out loud what I wanted out of life. The only way to get those things was to just go for it. Yes, I’ve been told “no” countless times along the way, but you can’t let that stop you.

This is the moment where we are going to stop letting guys feel like they have some sort of power over us. That we’re the reason that we’re making a name for ourselves. We already have the power to do everything we want to do in life. It’s time to stop thinking we aren’t good enough because we’re scared of being told “no.” Don’t be afraid to tell people your goals, start doing it and don’t stop working until you get there. Stop staying in your comfort zone. Remember the people who have supported and cheered you on along the way. But the one thing you shouldn’t do is let yourself feel like you got to where you are in life because of someone else.