Some people love it, some people hate it…February 14th is unavoidable. If you’re in a relationship or loving the single life, use this day to tell the people in your life how special they are to you. You don’t need a boyfriend or girlfriend to enjoy Valentine’s Day. Maybe you hear that a lot, but it’s true. The message of this day is to love yourself and the life you have. Be thankful for the people in it and eat lots of chocolate.
Personally, this is my first year (of my 20 years of life) that I have a valentine. So I’m new to this! Here’s some ideas that I thought of for those of us who are a little shy on this day or just need some ideas/encouragement.
How to ask him/her out or How to tell him/ her “I love you”
Whether you have them or not, be yourself. It’s really important that you don’t hold back your personality. One of the foundations of a relationship is accepting each other for what you are. If you want to ask someone out, be direct, be confident, be you. These are cliché words but very true.
- Write a letter
Let’s be real, letters are old fashioned but much more sentimental than a text message. It’s something that you can hold onto and open up whenever you need that reassurance. It doesn’t have to be novel length, but a paragraph or two explaining what you love, appreciate, and think of the person you’re with is more than enough. Just pretend you’re writing a text. It’s not that hard.
- Be observant
When you’re out shopping or just talking, listen and watch what they say or do! If he’s eyeing a new belt or she’s looking at a bracelet take note. If he talks about a new videogame or she talks about shoes, listen. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on a gift for it to be special. But if you remember something they were looking into, it might be a nice surprise to get it for them! It’s a good tip to be observant all year round. Before you know it, an occasion is going to come up and you’ll be able to remember what that person likes. Especially if they’re picky, you know you’ll be safe!
- Take them to dinner
If your boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t the gift giving type a nice night out is the perfect substitution.
- Call them and send flowers
If you are unable to spend time with that special someone due to work or school responsibilities, make sure you remind them what they mean to you. Send some flowers to their house and let them know they’re all yours. You can send flowers to guys too….but a nice substitution is to send an egg note! Check them out! here: https://www.etsy.com/shop/LittleOkins
- “I love you”
The three words that scare most people to death! The only piece of advice I can give is to say it with passion. These words are extremely valuable and if they do not come from the heart, you’re better off not saying them. There’s other words to show appreciation. Don’t be afraid to open yourself to someone and allow yourself to be loved. Let yourself be vulnerable and let someone make you feel all kinds of emotions. This is getting a little sappy, but I want to be real with everyone who reads my posts. It’s a common mistake to throw these words around.
Make the connection with him or her emotionally, mentally, and physically. Once you’ve conquered each other’s hearts and you know that it’s the right time, just say “I love you” – If it’s the first time, say it in person. And remember that if you’re sending it in a text…. “I love u” “love u” and “ily” are the same as “I love you”.
Hugging, kissing, winking, handholding, snuggling, cuddling, texting, calling…and more…are small acts of compassion that show “I love you” all year round.
. If you’re going to be spending this day with friends or family here’s some ideas to go along with everything above.
– Movie night
– Baking
– DIY crafts
– Pamper/Spa Day
– Small weekend getaway
– Grab Bag gift giveaway
Happy Valentine’s Day!!!
All of the HC Adelphi readers and writers are my valentines <3