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I’m a tall woman. I stand 5’10” and I love to wear heels; they usually end up putting me around 6’2″ or 6’3″. I have always wondered if I am intimidating to the male population. Do guys really care that much about a girl’s height? I feel like they lean more towards the shorter- to average-size women. I am very confident in my height and I have come to handle myself with more grace and poise than before. I used to try to look shorter and hunch a lot because I thought that guys wouldn’t like a tall woman. Does height really matter to guys? ––Giant Damsel in Distress at Drexel
Giant Damsel in Distress,
While it’s entirely plausible that some men (particularly those on the shorter end of the spectrum) might find tall women intimidating, I don’t think you should be too worried about that. Men that limit their “dating spectrum” due to simplistic things like height aren’t the type of guys you should be dating… they’re shallow and probably a little insecure. There’s nothing wrong with having personal standards, but letting trivial things like height impact who you date is ridiculous in my opinion.
That said, for guys who aren’t average-or-below-average height, it seems almost nonsensical that they would be “intimidated” by someone of your stature. Will all of them find it attractive? Probably not, but that’s a personal issue and one that shouldn’t impact how you see yourself.
Regardless of a woman’s height, if a guy is dating a girl, he should make her feel like she’s the greatest, most beautiful woman in the world. Men these days should take a hint from Will Smith, and especially take note of this picture of him and his wife. He may be taller than her, but he’s showing her off to the world––removing the spotlight from him and making her the focal point.
There’s no doubt that some men will be intimidated by your height. Don’t pay attention to them––they don’t define your worth, which I’m sure you already know since you stated that you were confident in your stature. Guys who are put off by your height are probably too shallow for your interest. My advice to you is to keep doing what you’re doing––and keep wearing heels, that’s another plus in my book–––and don’t worry about what the male population thinks of you.
Easier said than done, sure, but the male population as a whole is diverse and multifaceted. Generalizing all of us as tall-hating or tall-loving isn’t possible, and there’s no singular way to gauge how all of us feel about this matter in particular. Personally, I enjoy tall girls. I especially enjoy tall girls who wear heels. So at least one of us isn’t intimated by height, and like I said earlier: any man worth a woman’s attention should want his partner to shine brighter than he does when they enter a room together, and your height pretty much guarantees that much.