It’s no secret that women can seem like complicated creatures, but guys can be just as confusing. It seems like the closer we get to a guy, the more confusing and annoying he becomes. What exactly are guys thinking? Here are a few annoying situations where we wish it was easy to read a guy’s mind!
1. When He Texts You (or Doesn’t)
We’d all like to think that the guy we’ve been trying to get to know better is the easiest person to talk to. However, that’s not always true––especially when it comes to texting. In a world where iMessage comes before eye contact, we suppose it’s best to text a guy first to see if he’s worth dating in person. However, there are a few annoying things that guys say in texts that pose the question: “Why would he text that?”
This text came from the guy you hung out with for two hours on Friday. He seemed to have really liked you, but then this:
You: Heyyyy :)
Guy you like: Hi
Guys can be the most annoying people when it comes to text messaging. When you’re first interested in a guy, nothing trips you up more than the “hey” versus “hi” debacle at the beginning of a text. Is he interested in you, or does he just see you a friend? There’s a pretty big difference between the two (well, actually, the difference is in the separation of the words “boy” and “friend”), but sometimes it truly is hard to tell if your guy friend wants you in that way, particularly when texts come into play.
Another thing that bugs us is when we write a paragraph explaining something to a guy or telling him how we feel… and then he replies back with a skimpy answer.
You: You know, I really wish things were better in my life. Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and re-do things—just have a second chance to get it right, you know? My life could be so much better, but what I have to do is just do what I can with what I have and hope for the best.
Guy: Yeah lol
Maybe the guy is a little busy and can’t talk? Or maybe he doesn’t know how to be as open as you are with his emotions. RLCG Dale Lavine says that a short reply could mean a few things. “…It could simply mean that we’re tired (honesty, it does happen), it could mean we’re busy (my frequent excuse) or it could mean that we’re upset,” he says.
Either way, trying to spill our guts out to a guy via text is not that easy! Talking face to face is definitely the way to go, but trying to hit up a guy on his cell is what a lot of us are used to. Try using one of these conversation starters either on the phone or in person to get more than a “lol” for an answer!
2. When He Gets His “Man Period”
Guys may not get their time of the month the same way that we do, but they do experience their own type of PMS: “Pissy Male Syndrome.” Symptoms include behavioral changes for no reason, being inconsiderate towards our needs and wants and possibly the worst symptom of all: the silent treatment. Some may say this is far worse than female PMS because it happens when we least expect it.
No girl knows for sure why guys act this way from time to time, but we all wish we could know what they’re thinking when they do! Dale says that a few circumstances could affect how a guy acts, and it differs from male to male.
“I know I get super moody when the Patriots lose a game,” he says. “I know that when I’m driving behind someone particularly idiotic, I tend to hold an unreasonable grudge against that type of car for a certain amount of time.”
As for the prolonged cases of male PMS, we must adopt patience and understanding. If they can be caring when we have our time of the month, we can show courtesy by being as kind to them when they need it most!
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3. When He Looks at Other Girls
This is not so much a “what is he thinking?” as a “WHAT IS HE THINKING?!”
You’re walking downtown to the local shops for a day with your guy. A girl with flowing brown hair walks past you both, and his eyes seem to follow her as she continues to walk. You don’t know whether to tell him to stop or to slap him upside the head… so you do both.
Whether you like it or not, guys are going to look at other girls. It may be a glance, it may be a stare. What is certain is that it annoys us females to no end! There’s nothing like your guy checking out another girl to make the green eyed-monster of jealousy rear its head.
So many questions run through our heads when we see guys we like look at other girls:
“What does she have that I don’t?”
“If he’s that interested in me, why is he looking at other girls?”
“I know for a lot of guys it’s just… I don’t know, I hesitate to say ‘natural,’ but when someone attractive walks by, it’s just a faint, ‘Oh look at…’ before they snap back and realize they already have someone,” Dale says. “That obviously changes from person to person, but it’s natural for eyes to wander.”
However, if your guy is looking at another girl, but he still tells you how thankful he is for you each day, there’s nothing to worry about! You are “the chosen one,” so be grateful!
4. When He Seems to Ignore Us
You’re talking to your beau about your stressful day at class. The workload has been intense lately, especially in that econ class you’ve been struggling in. You’re expecting a little bit of sympathy, but it’s frustrating that the only response you get is: “Mhm.” Why can’t he form complete sentences?
Because he can’t stop playing Grand Theft Auto V. It seems like the only women he can’t get enough of are the virtual strippers in the game. You’re really regretting getting it for him for his birthday!
When television and video games are present, it can seem as though you aren’t! Why do these things take first priority in guys’ minds?
Elizabeth Daube, a junior at Old Dominion University, says there is a reason behind guys “ignoring” us.
“TV and/or games are what men are interested in, and it’s reasonable for men to want to take some time to focus on what they’re interested in,” she says. Sometimes, all a guy needs is a little “me” time. They’re not so much distracted as they are just filling some time with things they enjoy doing.
“Of course, the situation would be different if that’s all a man did,” Dale says. “If he’s paying a woman no mind, then there’s some kind of communication issue there that needs to be resolved.”
Guys may have their quirks, but those quirks are the reasons that we can’t get enough of them! Whether they’re paying more attention to the game than a conversation with us or they’re making weird noises with their bodies, there’s something about those annoying things guys do that is actually so darn adorable.