Lena Dunham’s book, Not That Kind of Girl, was released on September 30, and we’re all freaking out about her continual brilliance. Lena first became a queen to us all when the oh-so-relatable Girls premiered on HBO. Created by and starring Lena Dunham, Girls‘ comedic and dramatic modern-day look at the honest (and often miserable) moments in the lives of four New York City women was an instant hit. Lena is a witty writer, a relatable actress, a brilliant advocate for feminism and simply a badass. We’re celebrating Lena’s book with nine quotes with which Lena Dunham proved to be our spirit animal.

1. “Every now and then I’ll tweet something and I’ll just think, ‘what?!’ And then someone favorites it and I guess I feel a little less alone.”

2. “I’m always afraid that I’m being unprofessional, yet I continue to sign all of my emails, ‘xoxo’.”

3. “I think about my best friendship—which the Marnie-Hannah friendship in Girls is based on—as like a great romance of my young life.”

4. “I still go to a party and say something embarrassing to someone, and then write them a weird email about it the next day, and then write them a text because I think they didn’t get the email. No matter what happens with your level of success, you still have to deal with all of the baggage that is yourself.”

5. “Girls are trained to say, ‘I wrote this, but it’s probably really stupid.’ Well, no, you wouldn’t write a novel if you thought it was really stupid. Men are much more comfortable going, ‘I wrote this book because I have a unique perspective that the world needs to hear.’ Girls are taught from the age of seven that if you get a compliment, you don’t go, ‘Thank you,’ you go, ‘No, you’re insane.’”

6. “My dad finds Twitter just infinitely unrelatable. He’s like, ‘Why would I want to tell anybody what I had for a snack, it’s private?!’ And I’m like, ‘Why would you even have a snack if you didn’t tell anybody? Why bother eating?’”

7. “I always feel that there are two choices for women … either be totally confident about your non-size-zero body and say, ‘I love what I look like and this is who I am,’ or be the person who is obsessed with diet and exercise and keeping toned. What feels more realistic to me is that some days I wake up and think, ‘I love how I look.’ On other days I say, ‘If I had real self-control, I would be 10 pounds lighter.’ That contradiction is, to me, what being a girl actually feels like.”

8. “I am anti-pants.”

9. “That lostness and that questioning—I wish I could say that I completely went away when you were getting to do the thing you wanted to do, but unfortunately, that’s not the truth.”

9 Times Lena Dunham Totally Got Us

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