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Tiffany Thornton Has a Message for Anyone Judging Her Decision to Remarry After Her Husband’s Death

Abbey Williams

Nearly two years after Sonny with a Chance star Tiffany Thornton lost her husband Chris Carney in a fatal car accident, she has married Josiah Capaci. Thornton and Capaci had a beautiful ceremony on Saturday, which she called the “best day of my life” on Instagram. But not everyone was happy for her. Hateful comments—including ones that accused her of never really loving her late husband—flooded social media. So Tiffany let the trolls know how she feels. 

In the caption of a photo of Thornton and Capaci on their wedding day, she wrote, “This. This is love. That all encompassing, enduring, accepting, near perfect love. The kind that trumps my need to snap back at people who have the audacity to comment on my Instagram about whether I loved my first husband or not.”

She went on to say that “there is no timeline for grief” and Chris “would’ve loved the choice I made.” She added that she’ll always love Chris and this is all in God’s timing for her. 

 

This. This is love. That all encompassing, enduring, accepting, near perfect love. The kind that trumps my need to snap back at people who have the audacity to comment on my Instagram about whether I loved my first husband or not. But let me take a moment to explain something to you. There is no timeline for grief or for when God moves in your life in undeniable ways. There are a lot of people who think it isn’t good to be transparent on social media but I say forget that. I’m going to be open and honest because God wants me to. It’s part of my testimony and it needs to be said. I was a mess yesterday during our wedding ceremony. So many emotions flooded my heart as I walked down those balcony steps to the arms of my gift from God. I thought of Chris watching us and knowing he would have loved the choice I made, for me and for the boys. I thought of Chris’s amazing parents sitting front row and how much of a blessing they have been and will forever be in our lives. How happy they are for the boys and I and how much they already love Josiah. I am so completely humbled by the love I receive from this man. Jo came along EXACTLY when God knew I needed him. It wasn’t my choice to fall in love so quickly after chris passed but I was growing so comfortable with being alone that it was becoming unhealthy. Looking back now I think God saw that if I went too long without love that it would become increasingly difficult for me to submit to the authority of a husband after being set in my own ways. When I say “Jo is the greatest thing that’s ever happened to me” that in no way indicates that I didn’t love my first husband with all that I had. How dare any one of you judge me and say that on a social platform. It doesn’t make you any better of a person to cast judgment on others and sit in the seat of mockers. I will always love chris and jo knows that. And I will always love Jo. The beautiful thing about love is that it multiplies as new blessings come into your life. I don’t have to share one bucket of love with the special people in my life. Each one has their own bucket. Get it? Isn’t that amazing?? God’s timing is not our own. And I praise Him for that. You should too.

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Thornton’s new husband also shared an image from their special day. He wrote, “Today was so amazing and exceeded all my wildest dreams and expectations.” 

I am so happy for the newlyweds, as it sounds like this love is exactly what Tiffany needs. There’s no specific way to handle grief, and it looks like Tiffany and Josiah are so in love. How could you not be happy for them? Congratulations to these two!

Abbey Williams

U Wyoming '19

Abbey is a senior at the University of Wyoming and is currently majoring in Journalism. She couldn't imagine a world without Jesus, coffee, The 1975, Twitter or her family. You'll usually find her at a concert or cafe somewhere, which is where she spends majority of her free-time. Talking to band members after their shows is a hobby, along with thrifting & indulging in all aspects of pop culture. After college, she plans to spend more time at concerts, getting paid to write about music and bands.