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School to Summer Hook Ups

This guy and I were hooking up all semester and now it is summer.  I REALLY like him…I’ve never felt this way before.  I honestly just want to get to know him better, there’s no pressure for a relationship yet.  I also want to know the feelings are mutual.  How do I go about doing this?  I want him to know that I really like him and find out how he feels back.  By his actions, I can tell he likes me back….but I want to hear it.  What should I do?  And how should I act this summer (since we live in different states)?  

You may not like my answer here, but guys who get to hook up with a woman for an entire semester would have made their summer intentions very clear to the woman way before now.  If he sees you two as just a “hook up” couple, he will wait for school to start again and you will hear from him as he will want that scenario to continue.  If he has true feelings for you and sees more of a future for you as a couple, you will hear from his this summer without you having to call or contact him to see, “what’s up.”  For now, do nothing and see if he contacts you for more than just a physical hook up. If he doesn’t, you know where you stand.

David Coleman is known nationwide as The Dating Doctor™ and “America’s Real-Life Hitch!” He has been honored thirteen times as The National Speaker of the Year— 10 times by Campus Activities Magazine and 3 times by The National Association for Campus Activities. He recently won Speaker Of The Year again for 2010! He is a highly sought after speaker, author, entertainer, radio and television personality. David received his B.S. in Speech Pathology and Audiology ('83) and his Master of Arts in College Student Personnel ('85) from Bowling Green State University (BGSU). His book, Making Relationships Matter, has completed its second printing run, and his previous works, Date Smart! and 101 Great Dates are well respected and continue to impact lives worldwide. David has also contributed to five outstanding collaborative efforts, Leadership's Greatest Hits, Let Your Leadership Speak, BluePrints for Success, Why We Hover, and Keys to Success in College and Life. These publications are all filled with anecdotes, strategies and ideas to help expand one's relationships and potential. His compact disk, Prescriptions for Life and Relationships is a humorous, challenging and candid resource that examines the subtleties and complexities surrounding dating, relationships, romance and sex. David also had a story featured in the national bestseller, Chicken Soup for the College Soul. David has been featured in such fine publications as Us Magazine, Glamour, Celebrity Living, Mademoiselle, Women's World, Cosmopolitan, The USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and The New York Times. He has been featured on CNN as well as on all major television networks and on hundreds of radio stations nationwide including STAR 105.7 in Grand Rapids, Star 94 in Atlanta, MIX 105.1 in Orlando, KLITE 105.3 in Bakersfield, and "The Big One" 700 WLW, in Cincinnati, Ohio. David has spoken to more than 2,000,000 people in all 50 states, Canada and Europe and another 20,000,000 through his appearances on radio, television, and in print, audience members at more than 2,500 college campuses, corporations, conferences, single's organizations, military installations, churches, and civic groups have experienced his energetic and entertaining programs. He has been a featured speaker for all branches of our Military Service, the Sprint Corporation, Merrill Lynch, The Kroger Co., Federated and Flo-Tork, Inc. as well as civic organizations such as MOPS (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers), Junior Achievement, Circle K International, and Mortar Board. David received a National Service Citation from President George Bush, and has served as a spokesperson for Microsoft's Streets and Trips campaign , Abbott Labs Humira campaign, English Leather Cologne and Coca Cola's Fuze Black and Green Tea.