By Zoya Hasan
Religion is a tricky topic to talk about. In fact, religion in and of itself can be complicated to entirely comprehend. As I see it, all religions can be interpreted in numerous ways by different people. Although I feel hesitant to state that my religion, Islam, is a truly misconceived religion in the United States, it’s what I feel, and have felt for quite some time.
Iāve witnessed some troublesome comments towards the Muslim community during the four years Iāve lived in the United States. Iāve also come across a lot of people who ask me questions out of mere curiosity. One of my favorite and most recurring questions is: āHow come you donāt cover your head?ā and itās usually followed up by a comment on how they thought that Muslim women are āforcedā to do so. In all honesty, Iāve never known how to best answer this question. More often than not, I just tell them that not everyone in my family wears a hijab, but itās much deeper than that. For Muslim Womenās Day 2021, I want to dive in and finally break this down, for myself and those that may find themselves in a similar boat.
Women who wear the scarf can immediately be recognized as Muslims. The scarf certainly does represent our religion! I guess that makes it valid for you to ask me this question. Most of the women choose to wear it because of the faith it represents, while others may take the hijab as part of family tradition. For me personally, the scarf was never big in my family.Ā I wear it when appropriate, like when going to the mosque or performing prayer. But itās never occurred to me to keep my head covered at all times because I personally believe that it doesn’t make me any less of a Muslim woman.
I’m certainly not forced to wear a hijab, either. I admire the women that make this commitment in the name of God, but just because I don’t cover my head doesn’t mean I’m not a good Muslim. To me, being a good Muslim is being kind to others, being forgiving, being patient. Thatās my duty as a Muslim. I wish that one day I may be able to wear the scarf, because I believe it to be symbolic of love towards my religion, but please donāt judge me if I donāt. It’s my choice to make ā no one elseās.
A major issue in Western culture, specifically the US, is their perception of Islam directly relating to terrorism (specifically speaking, the tragic events of 2001). The events that took place in 2001 aren’t reflective of the teachings of my religion. The religion Muslims follow is a religion of peace and morality. I feel that a lot of people think of Islam as a dictatorship, but it’s far from it. Yes, autonomy doesnāt necessarily come easy to Muslim women. Yes, there are gender conflicts within the books. But there is also freedom of choice. Islam guides us on how to live, but it doesnāt force us in any manner.
Iām no scholar, but this is my take on my religion: The Holy Qurāan is our guide, and it advises us to not take it in its most literal sense. With that said, that are certainly people who advocate for the Qurāan to be understood in that sense, but the reality of this situation is that the Holy Book is open to interpretation. It is not a dictatorship.
My intention here is not to criticize any individual or group ā my only aim is to give a voice to something that has troubled me as a Muslim woman living in America. I donāt blame anyone for not knowing much about my culture or my religion; the media has its way of altering mindsets and only showing you what they think you need to know. It creates stereotypes. We do have technology at hand that gives us the ability to learn about anything and everything, so perhaps it might be time for us to use it purposefully.
What defines a Muslim woman is not her scarf, but rather her strength and courage to fight the expectations society have put on her. Women on their own have it hard enough in a world that’s predominantly patriarchal. To add more expectations to that makes it even more difficult for us. Please donāt relate my scarf ā or lack thereof ā to my devotion towards my faith.
I am a Muslim woman. No, I choose not to cover my head. Yes, I am religious.