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Let’s talk about microaggressions in our daily lives

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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at ICU (Japan) chapter.

One of my male friends once told me that it was girly of me that I could not get over my ex easily. In that conversation, I felt somewhat insulted but did not know why I felt that way. His irritating claim stuck with me for several days, and just when I was scrolling my Twitter feed, I realized that microaggression happened. 

According to Sue (2007), microaggressions are everyday verbal and behavioral insults that deliver hostility and derogatory to those with specific backgrounds such as race, gender, sexual orientation, and religion. What makes microaggressions distinct from other forms of discrimination is that perpetrators usually insult others automatically without being aware of doing it, which makes it harder for people of oppressed groups to identify and talk about their experiences of facing subtle discrimination.

In my case, my friend judged my entire personality based on my gender and completely ignored my character by conveying a message that all girls are naturally weak and vulnerable. Of all the boys I have met, the fact that he, one of my good friends, did commit such slight hurt me tremendously. My experience with microaggression was nothing but unusual. In fact, people of marginalized groups encounter microaggressions constantly throughout their lives, and they negatively affect those people in terms of mental health and standard of living. Although microaggressions are subtle, an accumulation of vague slights can have detrimental effects on marginalized people. 

Since perpetrators are usually unaware of conducting microaggressions, providing educational programs or pointing out microaggressions when they occurred in conversations seems like a good start to tackle this issue. However, it is hard to change the entire education scheme, especially in a country like Japan, where its latest attempt to change its education to be more active has just failed. Dealing with the defensive attitudes of offenders can be mentally exhausting for people of marginalized groups. 

I think that the best way to deal with microaggressions is to learn about them. In his “Microaggressions in Everyday Life,” Sue says that One of the significant contributions of microaggression study has given people of oppressed groups “language and concepts” to feel empowered by speaking and understanding their experiences. If we can detect microaggressions instantly when someone offends us in daily situations, we can at least get rid of stress from not knowing what happened. In addition, understanding the situation correctly and instantly gives us more time to think about how to deal with that particular situation; we can point of the slights, or we can just let go to protect our mental health. 

I sometimes become sick of this world where all people are not respected regardless of their backgrounds, but turning away from issues would not fix anything. I believe that I can make the world a better place by learning about my situation and other’s situation. 

“Microaggressions in Everyday Life,” written by Derald Wing Sue, is a very good book that covers the definition of microaggression, the kinds of microaggressions people face depending on their backgrounds, and also implications for a better future.

Rinko Nakayama

ICU (Japan) '25

Hi, I'm Rinko from ICU, Tokyo. I have lived in Arizona for a year so I'm pretty much ok with English. I'm feminist, vegan and currently studying Chinese. My purpose of writing at HC is to spread my view and lifestyle as a vegan It might sounds hard but actually so fun, easy and creative! Tell me your feed back through my instagram @delphinium2828