Conquer Those First Date Nerves

When pondering and daydreaming about that perfect date, anxiety does not settle. So, what happens when that perfect guy asks you on a date? Because this date isn’t just any date, it includes the crush who has been on your mind. And essentially, it’s the first date- so this means crucial preparation.
 
What can you do to prepare?
Finding out the evening’s plan is a necessary obligation. However, if this hunt fails you, don’t be nervous just plan your outfit, make-up, and keep a positive attitude for anything.
 
He said he’ll pick you up at 6 and its 5 – you’re running late and getting stressed and nervous, the last thing you want to do is become frustrated. Frustration=sweat and sweat looks bad on your shirt and beneath your make-up. So take a minute, sit down, breathe, and chill out.
 

Do your make up first.
After applying your foundation, concealer, blush, and/or bronzer its time for your eyes. It is easy to over do a look, especially in times of hurry, so keep it simple. Navy, charcoal, and silver are great shadow colors to accentuate any eye color. Simple eyes say you are ready for the night and welcoming to anything! Smoky eyes are another option.
 
This look isn’t a simple clean look but it’s simple enough to say, “Hey, I’m sexy and I’m confident.” Smoky is a little more time consuming and complex if you want to do it step by step, but when I want smoky eyes and I only have 10 minutes until my ride arrives, I do the simple application.
 
Covergirl has a pencil just for smoky eyes, which this can be helpful and very inexpensive! I apply eyeliner first on the top lid, MAC foundations for the eye, and I finish off with the choice of shadow. Apply on the lid and up to the curve of your eyebrow. After, apply some mascara- and it’s outfit time.
 
What to wear?
Depending on the weather, appropriateness is important. A little black dress is a great go-to when you’re in a hurry. Cover up with an off-white cardigan and some flats (heels may be too overwhelming for the first date). Keep this entire look even simpler than your make-up. No bling- bling or too much cleavage, this may suggest unhealthy ideas in his mind….remember, you may want to keep this guy around.
 
Okay, he just texted you and he is on his way to pick you up. Spray yourself with your favorite perfume, stay away from the mirror, and sit down and wait. Any mirror look will make you either want to change, fix your makeup, or feel more nervous about the date!
 
Etiquette.

Proper etiquette is necessary and never goes out of style. Just remember to be who you are and not a façade of yourself which you’ll have to replicate every time you see this guy again. It’s important to show your true self but nerves can bring out the worst too. If he opens the door for you don’t over compliment and say, “My last boyfriend never opened the door for me,” because honestly, he doesn’t want to know about your last boyfriend- especially on the first date.
 
Overly drinking may give him some bad ideas about you, take it easy. If he orders a beer, don’t be shy, order one too, just don’t challenge him to a chug off.
 
Be happy, but don’t scare him off. Smiling and listening to what he has to say is important, he may ask you many questions but ask him more questions. Don’t talk too much about yourself.
 
Now you’ve survived the night, and here comes the check. It says a lot about the guy if he doesn’t pay for you on the first date. So this is my advice to you. When the check comes- usually the server will put the check in the center of the table or give it to the man at the table. If he takes the check, offer to pay your half of dinner. Nothing more.
 
If he says he’s got it and he is paying for everything, smile and say thank you (you could even treat him to ice-cream later). Offering to pay for something outside of the date can suggest that you liked him and that you’d want to see him again or more of him for that matter. Saying thank you and that you had a great time and appreciated that he paid is enough.
 
The date finally ends, and you have survived. Now, comes the goodbye. If you want a first date kiss and you think that the date went amazingly give it a try, the worst that could happen is that he is a bad kisser!