Q: How do you tell your significant other that he is not a good sex partner?
A: Well, we have all heard about the “male ego,” haven’t we? Therefore, before you tell him, try to give him some direction. While you are having sex, tell him what you want him to do to you, guide and teach him. Be sexy and playful, this way he will not feel like he does not know how to please you. You can also watch some pornography together and find some videos that can illustrate what you need in bed. It will be fun for the both of you. But in the case that all of the above fail, just tell him…gently, like this, “Baby, I’m haven’t been really satisfied in bed.” If he is calm and willing to listen and learn, then keep the cover fun and light-hearted, maybe it will turn into a fun and fulfilling night for the both of you, especially YOU! ENJOY ;)
Q: How should I ask my mom to let me go on the pill?
A: This is a very important question but first I want to commend you for thinking about telling your mom. Most people won’t even think about telling their parents, but it’s important to tell an adult that you trust in, this way, there are no secrets and you can go about sex the safe way. J
Now, to answer your question, honesty is the best policy. You are an adult and it is your responsibility to handle things accordingly. Therefore, sit your mom down in a relaxed environment where you can speak privately and calmly. Tell her how you feel and discuss your options. Even though you may be afraid or hesitant to tell your mom, it is the right thing to do. If you change your mind, speak to another adult that you trust.
Q: What should I do if my boyfriend/sex partner doesn’t want to use condoms?
A: STOP HAVING SEX! Be smart! We have all seen and heard the stories about people who have had unprotected sex. It does not have a face or a name, anyone can be infected and EVERYONE is affected. With that being said, before making any decision, sit him down and have a conversation about sex and protection. Discuss your fears and your insecurities. If you decide not to use a condom, don’t have sex just yet! Both of you must go get tested at a nearby clinic and you should also make a visit to the gynecologists for some tests. After that’s done, make sure to discuss birth control with your gyno and explore your options. This is a big step, so know all the consequences that come with making this decision. Last but not least, give yourself some time to think about it and decide how you will feel if you stop using condoms. Safety should always be your first concern!
Q: Is it bad if I don’t give my boyfriend/girlfriend oral sex?
A: This is a tough one, but it can be answered…*takes deep breath.* Okay, I will not answer by saying that not giving your partner oral sex is a good or a bad thing because it depends on each couple and each individual. Discuss with your partner about what kind of sex life you both would like to have and compromise. If oral sex makes you uncomfortable then don’t do it. You should enjoy everything you do in bed and no one should force you to do something you don’t want to. Now, I am no sex therapist but I can tell you that being open with your partner sexually and verbally about what you both want can help the relationship tremendously. Oral sex may not be for you and that is okay, just make sure you and your partner are on the same page. Good luck, hope this helps!
Q: If you’re talking to a guy and he makes is clear that SEX is all he is interested in; do you think it’s possible to make him fall in love with you?
A: NO. I am going to give you, and ALL the women who think like this, a healthy dose of tough love. Here it goes: Women need to stop thinking that they can change EVERYTHING. We claim we want honesty but the minute someone gives it to us, we don’t believe it or can’t except it for what is it. I say that to say this, he was very honest about his intentions with you, do not try to change his mind. He knows what he wants and you should too. Therefore, if you want to be more that just “friends,” then look the other way. If not, you will end up getting your feelings hurt.