Sup.
Oh hey! What’s up??
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I give up. In the digital age, it is impossible to not be constantly surrounded by texting, Facebook and Twitter. This means triple the opportunities for you – yes you, the meek, awkward girl in the corner – to fatally screw up any potential fling with the hottie you met at the last party. I have learned if you do not put the correct amount of “flirty” question marks, he may think you are mad or uninterested. It is so easy to get lost in this process. Me, I am concise and straight to the point. There’s no time for me to analyze every character I type, though analyze is all I do now because of you, that guy I find so endearing and can not find the right words to text.
It is a situation most women go through, minus those ever so savvy ones we are all secretly jealous of. Here, I will provide the do’s and do not’s of trekking through relationships via the digital age.
DO:
1. Have confidence:
The most important thing to remember when dealing with a potential flirtation is to be confidant! Easier said than done, right? Wrong. Just be you, as cliché as that sounds. If someone is not interested in anyone but just YOU, then he is not worth your time.
2. Get the digits:
You strike up a conversation with a cute guy, and then suddenly it is time to leave. Now what? If he seems worthy enough to be a part of your life, then just go for it and ask him for his number. The next part gets pretty tricky though.
3. Follow your gut:
The day following a night of meeting a guy can be excruciating. “Do I text him? Should he text me? Does he remember me? Was he really that cute?” But really all you need to do is clear your mind. Stop thinking about it! It is pointless to mull over things like this because you will never know the answer to your questions. The best thing to do is follow your gut. If you want to text him, go for it! He is either dying for you to text or completely forgot and your simple reminder was so kind. Now the question is what to text. If something stands out during your conversation, go with that. Or a simple “hey” followed by “what’s up?” or “how’s it going?” never hurts. Just go with the flow, and the rest will follow.
DO NOT:
1. Text and drink:
It’s pretty self-explanatory. Something so innocent can lead to major problems the next morning.
2. Facebook stalk:
We all do this! Though when it is someone you barely know, all you end up doing is ruining the possibly wonderful night you had talking to him when you realize he isn’t photogenic, parties too much, or worse, has dated girls you think are more gorgeous than you. What does it matter? You met him and only he can let you know the real him. Not his Facebook page.
3. Duck and run:
I could not count on my two hands how many times I’ve done this when I see a guy I like. When you see him in the cafeteria, Memorial Union or on State Street, greet this run-in as a godsend. It means you get the wonderful opportunity to a.) Finally see him in normal lighting, b.) Decide whether or not he is still as amazing as you thought and c.) Take your flirtation to the next level…friendship! Unless you are so savvy he instantly wants you. The “duck and run” gets you nowhere except stuck behind a garbage can and still running through questions that will never be answered.
With more avenues for us all to stay connected, it really is difficult to meet someone and never hear from them or see them again. It is a big campus, but you can be surprised how small it feels when you keep running into him. So face your fears and don’t over think situations. The digital age has given our generation way too many opportunities to ponder for hours before replying, when really what you wanted to say in the beginning is the real you.