Women love sex more than men. Yes, I said it. Because it’s true. How could we not? We have the golden opportunity, unlike our male sexual-organ-driven-rather-have-a-penis-than-a-brain counterparts, to inherently love sex more because we aren’t supposed to.
Women are supposed to want to wait for “the one.” We’re supposed to be uncomfortable with having random casual smashing 24/7. Women are supposed to not be “in the mood” because we’re tired, on our periods, or just not genetically as horny as men. We’re even supposed to be less interested in sex because we’re supposed to be thinking of love and feelings and puppies instead of sex every 7 seconds.
Men rule the sexual supposed to’s. Men are supposed to smash “biddies” and slam any girl that is unlucky (or lucky—but mostly unlucky) enough to cross their paths. Men are supposed to go through life guided by their genitals, letting their junk lead them into numerous and indiscriminant holes because well, “every hole is a goal.” Men are supposed to run wild in sexual exploration for the majority of their youth until they’re 30 and realize they have to find a sexual outlet that will also do their laundry and scratch their head when they’re lonely. Yay for them.
You’d think that women are at a cultural, societal, and engendered disadvantage. But of course all women know that the real way to get ahead is to let men think that they’re in charge. And that must be what we’ve been doing all these years: letting men think that they are the sexually powerful, sexually elite, and sexually entitled when really, it’s only the women that truly taste all the succulence and priceless vitality of sex precisely because we aren’t meant to feel like its ours for the taking. Rather it is a rare delicacy, a secret shared and discovered with time and experience.
It’s a classic case of the forbidden fruit. Because sex and sexual desire are so freely administered to and expected of men it just cannot possibly be as exciting. Sex has to be ten times more exciting for women simply because we’re distanced from it, because it happens to us, notby us. We love it because every time we have sex its like we’re doing something we’re not supposed to, something bad, something dirty.
Let’s face it; women secretly LOVE doing things they aren’t supposed to. We love the shock value, the taboo, the good-girl-gone-bad. Lady Gaga wants a bad romance. Rihanna coined the “good girl gone bad” technique. And Katy Perry kissed a girl and she freaking loved it. Women secretly love the attention and even more so, we LOVE that we get to play as though we don’t. It’s like playing hard to get all the time! It’s SO FUN. It’s like our dirty little secret and girls love secrets more than anything. Perhaps the fact that women actually love, desire, and indulge in sex and sexual pleasure more than men is the one sacred secret that all women keep as a group (unlike the ones about Karen having sex with her best friend’s boyfriend in her best friend’s bed or Allie getting an STD…oops). I’m not even mad, I’m impressed that we women A) have been able to keep an actual secret and B) that we’re so awesome.
So, there you have it. The truth is out. Keep enjoying sex ladies and smile at that girl next to you in class or on the quad because yes, she’s thinking about sex too.
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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Duke chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.