Collegiette™ Question:
What makes you want to date a girl, as opposed to hook up with her?
Bro Answer:
I don’t like getting into relationships, so I am rarely looking for a girl to date. However, if I were to date a girl instead of just hook up with her, it would be because I have no desire to be with anyone other than her. She would have to be someone whom I find more beautiful than any other girl on every level.
I don’t really think there’s any sense in being in an exclusive relationship in college if you’re going to be tempted or want to hook up with other girls. Once you find yourself wanting to be with someone else, even if it’s just at a party, you should be single.
Collegiette™ Question:
What’s the biggest deal breaker?
Bro Answer:
The biggest deal breaker would be if my girlfriend did not like my friends. I have had buddies who completely disappear when they are in a relationship and lose touch with their friends. My friends have been there before and will be there after any girl I get involved with. If I had a girlfriend, she will be hanging out with my friends a decent amount. If she does not like them and has trouble getting along, then I would be expected to keep those parts of my life separate. That is something I have neither the time nor desire to do.
Collegiette™ Question:
What makes a girl more or less attractive?
Bro Answer:
Physically – I like when girls keep it relatively simple. I am not attracted to girls who get all dolled up and cake on a ton of make up. I prefer a more natural look.
Otherwise – A good sense of humor paired with a cute laugh is very attractive. I love to joke around and really like when a girl does too.
Collegiette™ Question:
At a party, what makes a girl stand out?
Bro Answer:
There are a couple things that really make a girl stand out at a party. The first is her attractiveness. An attractive, well dressed girl will immediately catch my attention. The second, more important and easier to control factor (let’s face it, whether a guy finds a girl attractive is mostly a gut reaction and can only be controlled and managed by the girl to a relatively small extent) is her approachability.
This is what holds my attention. If I see an attractive girl engaged in a conversation with one guy, I will keep moving. However, if I notice that she seems more open to someone she doesn’t know coming up and talking to her, I am far more likely to take my chances. There are a few ways to tell if a girl is looking to meet someone.
First, is by the people she is with. A girl talking intimately with only one other person, even if it is another girl, but especially if it is a guy, will be less likely to welcome an interruption. The second and more notable part is her body language. If she’s looking at the person or people she’s with the entire time, then she’s being entertained and it will be much more difficult to enter into a conversation. But, if she is glancing around and maybe even makes direct eye contact, it is an invitation to come over.
She is suggesting that she is not interested in what is happening in front of her and looking for a distraction. She is only in the situation because no one wants to be standing alone at a party. She is looking for something, or someone, to come over and save her.
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Collegiette™ Question:
What do you notice most about the way a girl dresses?
Bro Answer:
I may not notice all the coordination and matching, brands and designers, or time a girl puts in when she gets dressed to go out, but what I can tell is what she is trying to say with her outfit. It is often apparent, just based on the way a girl is dressed, if she is simply going out to relax and have a girls’ night, or if she is looking to meet someone and have some fun.
Collegiette™ Question:
What trends do you not want to see on a girl?
Bro Answer:
I am far from an expert on fashion, especially girl’s fashion, but high wasted anything is not attractive. Ask any guy who is willing to tell you the truth.
I do really like jean shorts though, especially when the pockets are coming out the bottom.
Collegiette™ Question:
What quality do you like least in a girl?
Bro Answer:
I don’t like it when a girl is flakey. I understand that sometimes she is trying to play hard to get or perhaps is just very absent minded. Ultimately, it means she is busy playing games or not entirely interested, and either way is not worth the time.
Collegiette™ Question:
What puts a girl in the friend zone?
Bro Answer:
If I don’t find a girl attractive, she’s in the friend zone. If a girl has a boyfriend, she’s in the friend zone (for the time being). Though I do have friends who are attractive and single, I do not consider them friend zoned. If they wanted to advance things I wouldn’t say no, so my friendship with them is more a product of them friend zoning me, not the other way around.
Collegiette™ Question:
What’s the best way for a girl to indicate she’s interested in a guy?
Bro Answer:
Pretty much any time a girl is nice to a guy, he thinks she’s interested. Girls are much more flirty than guys by nature. Much of the time, a girl who is just overly nice, can come off to guys as a tease. This makes us generally more skeptical when trying to figure out if a girl is actually into you.
For a girl to demonstrate her interest more absolutely, she has to do a bit more and go beyond cutely joking or tossing her hair. Instead of just laughing, don’t be afraid to touch him on the arm or lightly pat him on the chest as you chuckle. It is not out of context since it is still playful and endearing, yet it lets the guy know that you are not only not afraid of contact, but in fact willing to initiate it.