Most college guys, myself included, have difficulty finding the time to maintain a serious relationship. Everyone’s either part of a club, dedicated to athletics, part of an e-board, or all of the above. Not to mention the academics: Is it not midterm season and the time of venting, freaking out, and procrastination? From a guy’s perspective, solid relationships are a challenge while studying at BU because everyone is exploring their independence at this time. Also, it’s difficult to be with someone who may not have enough time to pencil you in. With BU being as big and diverse as it is, sometimes the idea of a man or woman in your life just isn’t on the priority list.
Take me, for example. I am the social chair for my fraternity, I work at a job about twelve hours a week, I intern around eight hours a week at a non-profit organization, I will be active on two committees for BU, I am an active member in Alianza Latina, and I am a full time student. Do I sound familiar? Yes, because I probably sound like everybody else on campus. We all struggle with time management. However, I’m currently in a relationship and having a girlfriend is a huge part of my life as well. Is it easy to manage a relationship on top of everything else that I do? Definitely not. Do we get into arguments about time commitment issues? Of course. The thing that we have talked about over and over again is the idea of having such busy lives and being conscientious of the fact that we came to BU for ourselves. I think this can apply to anyone who is in a relationship or may soon be. It’s important to lay down the ground rules at the beginning because what he is thinking in his head is almost never what you are thinking. I still don’t think people are deliberately looking for a relationship in college, but if it does come your way, I think it’s important to let it in and embrace it while still thinking of yourself and your independence.