This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at WM chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.
My sisters have this nasty habit of attracting lots of guys. As the oldest brother, it is naturally my job to screen them and weed out the bad ones. It’s not that I think they lack good judgment but as a guy, I do have insight into decidedly male thoughts and intentions. If you are on the fence about a guy use this checklist to decide if he is a keeper!
- He’s a gentleman– This one is very important. It shows that he cares enough about you to put forward his best. Besides, after a while a lack of such qualities will inevitably annoy you to some degree and create a rift in an otherwise happy relationship.
- He’s genuinely caring– This includes a lot of things. Will he sit by your side when you’re sick? Is he sympathetic when you’ve had a bad day? Does he do sweet things for you “just because”? When times get tough you are definitely going to want that kind of support system from someone you care about.
- He’s a good conversationalist– Do you do all the talking? Let’s be honest, that will get old fast! I know some guys are just naturally shy (I am) but if y’all are comfortable in a relationship he should be open about his life and willing to participate in a conversation.
- He values the emotional side as much as the physical– HE IS NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND IF YOU ONLY HOOK UP. That’s called a hook up buddy. Demand more from the man in your life. You may be happy with this setup initially, but you will desire more when you realize that this “relationship” is superficial and easily broken.
- He gets along with the family– If you’re lucky and things work out, he’s going to be spending lots of time with your family. Better to avoid awkward holiday gatherings by insuring your man can handle it. Beyond that though, it shows he has people skills and enough respect for you to care about those whom you care about.
- He can handle commitment– Dating is great. I love dating, but eventually there needs to be some degree of commitment. Otherwise, y’all may find yourselves on different levels emotionally and that is when people get hurt. If he is adverse to commitment at least make sure there is exclusivity in the relationship.  Â