Now I’m no math major or anything, but there are some problems that have very simple solutions; it’s just that sometimes we don’t really want to acknowledge them. One of these problems would be your boyfriend’s commencement or continuation of contact with his ex (whether it be recent or timeworn). The answer is pretty straightforward, but leave it to us to overanalyze the simple calculation and transform our situation from simple addition to quantum physics.
Why do we talk to people? Generally, it is because there is something we need to vocalize, whether it is about a situation or ourselves, say emotions. Whether your bf is being friendly, arguing or crying to his ex the message is clear: emotions linger. More often than not these sentiments are of physical and/or emotional attraction. Why do guys do this? Well that’s another simple answer ladies, some of us are confused and don’t have a handle on our emotions hence why we will occasionally act like d*cks. Understandable, no? If this situation starts to happen with your ex, then you need to bring it up with him immediately. Don’t let it cultivate and see how it’ll pan out – fight for your man! Maybe he just needs a little guidance and you should show him that you are the only one who is there for him now and that you’re the better option. However, let me add that if he is straight up just flirting with his ex or being sketchy about “just being friends” then do yourself a favor and lose the sucka. Guys do need to realize how great of a catch you are, and we do, but like I mentioned earlier there are times when we just get overwhelmed with our emotions and make stupid decisions (and a few of us are just d***s).
While we are on the subject of communication with exes I need you girls to realize the same principles apply to you. If you are just trying to make your guy jealous – stop it. If you are unclear about how you feel – approach your new boyfriend about it. If you are trying to get with your ex, then have some respect and end things with your current bf.
The sooner this naïve problem is addressed there will be less stress and more honesty for both parties. Sure there are exceptions to being pen pals with the ex, but why put your relationship in that unclear territory – uncool. Don’t be that person and appreciate what you have now.
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