5 Signs He’s Not Good For You

I learned a lot about dating during my freshman year of college. I found a guy, and I thought it was awesome that I found someone I liked and who liked me in return. Come to find out, he liked a lot of people and didn’t want to commit to anything. He was more bitter than War Head Lemonade mixed with dill pickle juice, and I was not going out with this guy. No matter how hard I tried to help him, he just wasn’t going to budge! He taught me a lot of useful information that I’m going to share with you so that you don’t have to go through the same thing. If you already have, let this be a reminder to never do it again!

Shall we begin? Great!

1. Never go out with a guy who constantly talks about his exes.
Seriously, girl! If Bob’s still butthurt about past relationships, chances are he isn’t over it and isn’t ready to commit to a relationship with you. Also, take note: if Bob talks poorly about his ex-girlfriends that way, he’ll probably talk about you that way to the next girl.

2. Never go out with a guy who wears his baggage like a badge.
If Bob is laying everything on the table in the first date and you don’t think you can deal with it, don’t try to be Barb the Builder. Bob needs to fix himself before he gets into a relationship with you.

Bob will tell you this huge, sad story and then announce, “I’ve changed!” (Uh-huh, I’m sure. We’ve all heard that one before.) A good guy will come to you the first time and be interested in what you have to say and getting to know you, not talking about his past. Over time, you may share a little bit of the past, but, I’m telling you right now, you do not need to bother with someone who always talks about “The Old Bob.” If he’s really a changed person, he won’t be constantly trying to convince himself or you. Move on from him!

3. Never go out with someone who doesn’t want to announce you’re his.
If he won’t hold your hand until you’re five hours away and no one knows you, he is not into you. If he doesn’t want to hug you and flirt with you and tell all his friends about you, you aren’t important to him. You never will be. You can tell him that you like when he flirts with you and draws attention to you (in a good way) until you’re blue in the face, but Bob is never going to change. That’s just him.

If he doesn’t want to kiss you until it’s the “perfect time,” it’s never going to be the perfect time. Don’t fall victim to his “charm.” It isn’t charm; it’s pure deception. Any guy with eyes can see how beautiful and indispensable you are and will be dying to kiss you the first chance he gets to show you how much he values you!

4. Never go out with a guy who says he isn’t ready for a relationship but still wants to hang out.
This is my straight-up opinion. I’ve never gotten involved with someone who I didn’t find some good attributes for a marriage. Don’t listen to Bob’s elaborate euphemisms for wanting a Friend with Benefits. He is not worth your time, no matter how cute he may be.

5. Never go out with a guy who has a bad track record.
If you can talk to other girls who know this guy, and the details of your relationship with him are the same as their relationship you’re learning about (e.g., places you’ve been, conversations you’ve had), he is bad news! Leave him and run for the hills!

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